Just Call Me a Quaintrelle: Female Dandy for short

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I would say I am a “Female Dandy”

In this article An Ode to That Rare Creature, the Female Dandy

http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/03/ode-to-that-rare-creature-the-female-dandy.html

the women exude a quality, a class, a style a way of living that is lived through passion, savoring of life,

the female dandy is its own archetype, known as the quaintrelle

The term comes from the wordquaint — a much more elegant coinage than its precursors, dandyessand dandizette.

As one online dictionary has it, a quaintrelle [Dandy] is

“a woman who emphasizes a life of passion expressed through personal style, leisurely pastimes, charm, and cultivation of life’s pleasures,”

and as the article states after quoting, shouldn’t that be all of us?

A further description later in the article gives another viewpoint..

“Her hands are gloved, she is helmeted, and inaccessible; a cold and disturbing beauty [through which] pierces a formidable being — this woman is free!”

Tamara De Lempicka

 

While most of this is true, I do not feel that all “Dandy” women are cold and inaccessible. However, I do feel as this statement says, the women like this do tend to have that “Je ne se quoi” 

An intangible quality that makes something distinctive or attractive

I think I attain some of that, however being in The Des Moines Women’s Club reminds me every Wednesday that I still have something to strive for an attain. There are so many women in the club that have this, finesse, about them. The carry themselves with such eloquence and I admire them so just I used to admire ladies from my church in years past. There was one lady Sister Kiester that had this formidable quality about her. She hosted fine dinners, her clothes were always impeccable, and her was perfectly coiffed. She was something to aspire to.

I recently have thought more about my wardrobe choices, style, demeanor and manner in which I present myself and wonder if others look at me that way or if they just see me as some silly girl playing dress up? Then there are shows like Advanced Style  who have this style and grace about them. 

I get shown this movie over and over. People always send it to me or tell me I remind them of these ladies. I am 45 this year and have my own style and am told I fit the description of  “people who live full creative lives. They live life to the fullest, age gracefully and continue to grow and challenge themselves.” As well, I believe Ari should check out The Des Moines Women’s Club with all the impeccable women who have that same sir and quality about them! I feel that style is relative and I desire to dress as I choose and have my own flair for dress as well as life.

I think Dietrich best described it summing up the allure of the quaintrelle:

Her attire isn’t meant to please others, only herself.

If you know me, you know one of my mantra’s is to always Be Yourself. Live your life for yourself. Do as you desire and happiness will follow. Wear what you desire to wear no matter how ostentatious it may be. If YOU love it, FEEL great in it, then that is all that matters.

I leave with you my Mantra

“When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?”

Xoxo, Trisha Trixie

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Joint Venture: Daisy Girl Bath and Body/Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie

I always wanted to have my own line of my scent “Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie”. It has a luscious scent that is a sensual, feminine, enticing , alluring and beguiling with aphrodisiac and goddess oils hinting at floral notes and a spicy musk.

It is a scent that started long ago. When I was younger, my mother use to have this “Attraction Oil” she called it that she would rub on her wrists and neck before going out or meeting with a client. I loved the way it smelled and how it wafted gloriously through the air after she left the room. When I was older I remember hugging her after getting off the plane to visit and I said “You smell like my mommy!” and we laughed and she asked “What does that mean?” I responded, “That scent, I remember that scent. That is you, that scent reminds me of you!” When we got home she handed me a small bottle and told me it was called “Passion Oil” but it was no where to be found. She called it “Attraction Oil” because it seemed like every time she wore it, she attracted people, things, followers, like a magnet! She said she kept adding olive oil to it to try to make it last longer. Then she gave me the bottle and said, “Here, enjoy. I’ve attracted more than my fair share though I am sure with or without it I will attract more, I always do!” and then we laughed (if you knew my mother, you would know how VERY true that statement is!) . (Also funny is when I had my fiancee’ smell the lotion I created he nearly said the same thing)

For years I carried it around and one day when I was in an eclectic mysteries shop I was perusing and saw some oils. After smelling a few I found some that almost smelled like my moms passion oil. I took them home and made up my own mixture and let it ferment or sit in the dark for awhile. After a few months I opened it and to my happy surprise, I had found the mixture that smelled like my mother’s passion oil.

I bought some tiny bottles and used washi tape around them for decoration and added a cute ribbon and attempted to sell these vials of Be Fabulous scent. But, it didn’t really take off and wasn’t QUITE what I wanted. So I put the oil back under the cupboard and pulled it out every now and then to wear.

Then one day, at a vendor show, I met Carrie from Daisy Girl. She was selling amazing soaps, lotions, candles, etc with these great scents! I bought Little Black Dress scent from her and through the show we chit chatted and  exchanged info. I contacted her to further find out if we could arrange a Joint Venture with my scent to make up some items. She agreed and after discussing back and forth what I wanted, how much scent is needed, Carrie even packaged it , labeled it, and sent it to me. Now we are working on having one of her lip balms customized for me and some wedding favors done for me as well. ( If you are desiring bulk custom orders, contact her, she would be happy to oblige for personal, weddings, business or anything you might need. I know after working with her, she is a great person to work with and does everything she can to assist you.)

Yesterday, I received my FIRST shipment (as I just know I will be ordering more) of my new scent “Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie” and I am so excited, I squeeeee!!

This scent embodies me in so many ways….

“I am a lover of life. I savor it and I find passion in it. My father passed when I was young so I learned early, life is short, so live it while you can. My biggest inspiration is my mother, who instilled the desire within me to make a positive difference in the lives of those I meet and to leave a positive feeling on the world. There is a song by JJ Heller that talks about living life this way that I made a video of here… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBA1y2WKRx8

“When I leave I want to leave something behind. I want to be known as someone who made a difference. Not something small, but a significant difference. I want to be that person that people remember. I want to be one like my father Art that everyone remembered and none will ever forget. I want to be like my Mother Mary who left a fragance of love and compassion behind her always. Just like the song says… I want to leave my fragrance behind. A positive fragrance that will have touched the world and hopefully your life will be better for being in mine because I made a difference to you 🙂 Someday when this life is over…I’l fly away…I’ll fly away..when I leave…I wanna leave a memory….(Will You Remember Me?)

I want to shine wherever I go. I want to leave a positive fragrance behind. I want to make a difference. I want people to know they can count on me. I want to share my story and my life with others, so that I may help them along their journey. I want to leave a legacy of love. In the end, this is what inspires me the most.”

Mostly the line “I want to leave a positive fragrance behind.” really stuck with me. Anytime after my mother left a room, whether she was wearing her oil or not, people always talked about her, how great she was, how much energy she had, how good they felt about themselves because SHE made them feel that way and they would say…

There is something about her. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but she exudes this way about her, that is simply magnetic and magical, that you are just, drawn to her

 

Many women would hate to be like their mother, but if you tell me that, I find it as a complete compliment! I have lived my life following her guidelines and teachings, her ways and holding to high values and morals like my mother.

This joint venture for my own line is more than just having a line with my scent. It is my vision to honor my mother as well as create a lasting legacy for myself as well. I wish we were able to be closer, talk more and laugh and enjoy life like we used to. However, she lives far away and at over 60 years, my mother is just as energetic and alive as she was when I was younger, busy as well and constantly doing things to help others. As the baby, of course I want her time, but knowing that to this day she still helps others and does everything she can to help her fellow man, I can’t be mad or annoyed at this because I know one day my kids will probably be saying the same. She is my inspiration. She is amazing to me. I honor her in every way. I love her to the moon and back.

To create this line with Daisy Girl is my way to always have my mother with me, in my mind, in my heart in my soul and now, just like she always does, to share my life with others. Life is amazing. It is Fabulous. My mother is Fabulous. I am passing forward from her, to you, this legacy to Be Fabulous, where you go, whatever you do. Now I share the legacy with you…

Like the song says,

I want to leave a legacy of love,

I want to leave my fragrance behind 

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