Joint Venture: Daisy Girl Bath and Body/Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie

I always wanted to have my own line of my scent “Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie”. It has a luscious scent that is a sensual, feminine, enticing , alluring and beguiling with aphrodisiac and goddess oils hinting at floral notes and a spicy musk.

It is a scent that started long ago. When I was younger, my mother use to have this “Attraction Oil” she called it that she would rub on her wrists and neck before going out or meeting with a client. I loved the way it smelled and how it wafted gloriously through the air after she left the room. When I was older I remember hugging her after getting off the plane to visit and I said “You smell like my mommy!” and we laughed and she asked “What does that mean?” I responded, “That scent, I remember that scent. That is you, that scent reminds me of you!” When we got home she handed me a small bottle and told me it was called “Passion Oil” but it was no where to be found. She called it “Attraction Oil” because it seemed like every time she wore it, she attracted people, things, followers, like a magnet! She said she kept adding olive oil to it to try to make it last longer. Then she gave me the bottle and said, “Here, enjoy. I’ve attracted more than my fair share though I am sure with or without it I will attract more, I always do!” and then we laughed (if you knew my mother, you would know how VERY true that statement is!) . (Also funny is when I had my fiancee’ smell the lotion I created he nearly said the same thing)

For years I carried it around and one day when I was in an eclectic mysteries shop I was perusing and saw some oils. After smelling a few I found some that almost smelled like my moms passion oil. I took them home and made up my own mixture and let it ferment or sit in the dark for awhile. After a few months I opened it and to my happy surprise, I had found the mixture that smelled like my mother’s passion oil.

I bought some tiny bottles and used washi tape around them for decoration and added a cute ribbon and attempted to sell these vials of Be Fabulous scent. But, it didn’t really take off and wasn’t QUITE what I wanted. So I put the oil back under the cupboard and pulled it out every now and then to wear.

Then one day, at a vendor show, I met Carrie from Daisy Girl. She was selling amazing soaps, lotions, candles, etc with these great scents! I bought Little Black Dress scent from her and through the show we chit chatted and  exchanged info. I contacted her to further find out if we could arrange a Joint Venture with my scent to make up some items. She agreed and after discussing back and forth what I wanted, how much scent is needed, Carrie even packaged it , labeled it, and sent it to me. Now we are working on having one of her lip balms customized for me and some wedding favors done for me as well. ( If you are desiring bulk custom orders, contact her, she would be happy to oblige for personal, weddings, business or anything you might need. I know after working with her, she is a great person to work with and does everything she can to assist you.)

Yesterday, I received my FIRST shipment (as I just know I will be ordering more) of my new scent “Be Fabulous by Trisha Trixie” and I am so excited, I squeeeee!!

This scent embodies me in so many ways….

“I am a lover of life. I savor it and I find passion in it. My father passed when I was young so I learned early, life is short, so live it while you can. My biggest inspiration is my mother, who instilled the desire within me to make a positive difference in the lives of those I meet and to leave a positive feeling on the world. There is a song by JJ Heller that talks about living life this way that I made a video of here… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBA1y2WKRx8

“When I leave I want to leave something behind. I want to be known as someone who made a difference. Not something small, but a significant difference. I want to be that person that people remember. I want to be one like my father Art that everyone remembered and none will ever forget. I want to be like my Mother Mary who left a fragance of love and compassion behind her always. Just like the song says… I want to leave my fragrance behind. A positive fragrance that will have touched the world and hopefully your life will be better for being in mine because I made a difference to you 🙂 Someday when this life is over…I’l fly away…I’ll fly away..when I leave…I wanna leave a memory….(Will You Remember Me?)

I want to shine wherever I go. I want to leave a positive fragrance behind. I want to make a difference. I want people to know they can count on me. I want to share my story and my life with others, so that I may help them along their journey. I want to leave a legacy of love. In the end, this is what inspires me the most.”

Mostly the line “I want to leave a positive fragrance behind.” really stuck with me. Anytime after my mother left a room, whether she was wearing her oil or not, people always talked about her, how great she was, how much energy she had, how good they felt about themselves because SHE made them feel that way and they would say…

There is something about her. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but she exudes this way about her, that is simply magnetic and magical, that you are just, drawn to her

 

Many women would hate to be like their mother, but if you tell me that, I find it as a complete compliment! I have lived my life following her guidelines and teachings, her ways and holding to high values and morals like my mother.

This joint venture for my own line is more than just having a line with my scent. It is my vision to honor my mother as well as create a lasting legacy for myself as well. I wish we were able to be closer, talk more and laugh and enjoy life like we used to. However, she lives far away and at over 60 years, my mother is just as energetic and alive as she was when I was younger, busy as well and constantly doing things to help others. As the baby, of course I want her time, but knowing that to this day she still helps others and does everything she can to help her fellow man, I can’t be mad or annoyed at this because I know one day my kids will probably be saying the same. She is my inspiration. She is amazing to me. I honor her in every way. I love her to the moon and back.

To create this line with Daisy Girl is my way to always have my mother with me, in my mind, in my heart in my soul and now, just like she always does, to share my life with others. Life is amazing. It is Fabulous. My mother is Fabulous. I am passing forward from her, to you, this legacy to Be Fabulous, where you go, whatever you do. Now I share the legacy with you…

Like the song says,

I want to leave a legacy of love,

I want to leave my fragrance behind 

Be Fabulous

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Recipe Sunday: Granny’s Homeade Fry Bread

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When I was little, until I was eight years old I lived in a small dirty white little farmhouse on the end of old dirt road in Boone, Iowa. My parents being split up, my father and my sisters and I lived in their home with them. We have left the trailer house across the way and stayed with them, I guess so there was someone to watch us. I didn’t mind and in fact loved living there.

Being the bay of the family, I was not of dating age and the other girls would run off to spend time with friends and I would sit and listen to granny’s stories of the old farmhouse, the land and of daddy and the Hunter’s for hours. She would tell me how the house was converted from an old schoolhouse to the home we lived in, stories of how they sold off parts of the farm as they got older and stories of recipes came to be.

I remember mornings waking up to the smell of homemade bread cooking downstairs and I would come bounding down the stairs so hard I often would worry if the floor would fall beneath me. As I would get to the base of the stairs Grandpa would cold me for coming down the stairs so fast and hard but I didn’t care. All I wanted was a taste of that bread. You see, I remember a story Granny told me, being a perfectionist she was, that she wanted each of the loaves to be the same size and because of this she would always have a few extra pieces of dough left over and she would put oil in the pan and fry them up. She learned this from her mother and so on.

So when homemade bread was cooking I just knew there was going to be fry bread soon after. I didn’t even care that it was 5 am in the morning! The early bird gets the worm right? Or in this case, the early girl gets the bread!

I loved watching her make bread. To me it was like a magic art. Add a few simple ingredients.  Add this magical white dust to the bowl. Add more magical white dust to the table. all of a sudden a big blob of something came out of the bowl and would land on this powdery dust then poof, dust would go everywhere and float through the air, wafting through the kitchen on kitchen fairy wings.  She kneaded the dough over and over but not too much. Even by the time I was eight her hands were frail but that did not stop her. She worked the dough, folding it over and over til it was just right. Then she would take this slender knife with a serrated edge and slice pieces of bread and fold them in such a fashion that by itself seemed magical to make it into a perfect shape to fit into the bread tins.

Then whatever was left over and would slice off and roll then pat flattened and work almost like she was making mini pizzas and then add them to this sizzling pan of hot oil, turn the pieces over with tongs and then take them out and put them onto a plate with a hand towel. No paper towels for this lady. She believed that there was no reason to waste when using a real town was just good enough and could be washed and hung on the line at a later time.

After blotting dry she would serve them up to us one by one hot off the plate right onto ours with a jar of her homemade jam or jelly.

It was always such a treat to have fry bread because you did have to get up early to get it, it wasn’t something she always made because if her loaves were perfect that day, no dough was leftover, so it was hit and miss, but oh man, when you could get your hands on Granny’s Homemade Fry Bread. mmm, you wanted to eat it all day! Mouthwatering and delicious couldn’t even begin to describe it!

I asked Granny if she ever just made fry bread and she said yes but as often as she used to. When I was older she shared with the family and us kids many Recipes. I don’t know how exact this is, but this is her Fry Bread Recipe as best as I can remember it if you aren’t making whole loaves of bread.

I got up this morning and shared with my man my stories and my Fry Bread goodnes and he loved it. Now he wants me to make it all the time for his lunches and for tacos and other bread replacements in our house. Maybe you will too! If you make it, I would love to hear what you think, how you use it and how it went over in YOUR house?

ENJOY!

You Need-
4 cups all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 1/2 cups warm water
4 cups shortening for frying (I used Canola oil whihc is good for High Heat cooking)
How To:
Combine flour, salt, and baking powder. Stir in 1 1/2 cups lukewarm water. Knead until soft but not sticky. Shape dough into balls about 3 inches in diameter. Flatten into patties 1/2 inch thick, and make a small hole in the center of each patty.
Fry one at a time in 1 inch of hot shortening, turning to brown on both sides. Drain on towel.
Sorry I didn’t get any pics while I was mixing it. i got so busy I forgot. This is after I mixed it and was getting ready to cut it up.
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I dont’ have a big kitchen like Granny and my table is not high so I used a plate and my counter to pat out the pieces.Then I let them hang in my hands a bit to stretch them out.
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Then toss them into the pan and let it simmer on one side….
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Then slip it over and sear the other side. If you have your heat at the right setting each one only is about 2/3 minutes. I actually had mine too hot at first and had to turn it down… It takes a little getting used to. Granny used to use a Cast Iron Skillet I forgot to mention. I didn’t have one. Use what you have but I do think cast iron is better. Gives the bread more
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Here is the final product and I topped mine off with a little Apple Butter we bought at Amana colonies to make it feel as close to Homemade like Granny’s as I could!
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Until Next Time,
Xoxo
Trisha Trixie
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Product Review: That Girl Knitz, Maker/Creator Donna Grossman

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One of the things I have always loved to do is Product Reviews! When I had my other fashion business we were just kicking off into that and how I miss it. I even had an assistant, Corrina, who was my FashionEye and did them too. I miss having the chance to do reviews.

So when a local Entrepreneur, Donna Grossman, from That Girl Knitz, asked me to blog about her headbands and give them a whirl I, of course, jumped at the chance! Her website is www.thatgirlknitz.com.

I found Donna on one of the Handmade and Crafters groups. I fell in love with the mannequin  head she used for her image posts and asked if I could pay her for pictures of it. She gladly shared them without cost. The other reason I fell in love with the image was a fabulous knit hat the head was wearing.  Right away I had to say thank you and wanted this fabulous hat anyway!

 

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Shown below is the fabulous knit hat I bought from her. I wore it as my St. Patrick’s Day Hat and got SO many compliments on it! I am a selfie girl so of course, I had to take many selfies with it!!

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When, I received my package of Headbands Donna asked me to review, I fell in love again! Swoon! I mean wow, talk about talent. I am a seamstress and looking at these headbands I was blown away. Very ingenious!

She sent me such a wide variety of headbands and some of them even were FLEECE lined

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The ones I ended up picking out to keep…

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I  love my Headbands. They don’t give me a headache! I can’t wait to help Donna sell them at some of my local shows and get the word out about this FABULOUS and Ah-Mazing product! Here is me wearing one with my Fabulous Fascinators! See how WELL they go together!!??

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Do yourself a favor. Go check this gal out! www.thatgirlknitz.com  She is the sweetest lady, she makes the best headbands around, and I just love them and her to pieces.

Until Next time,

XOXO

Trisha Trixie

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Trixie Tuesdays: Selling STUFF (TrishaTrixie Style)

So ya wanna sell your STUFF? From Aprons to Artist to Social Media Strategiest, no matter what you do, if you love it enough, you might decide you want to make money at it.

Selling items you make is not easy. Making a business out of it is even harder. Often I fight the comments of others asking me or stating to me that what I do is a”Hobby” not a business and on top of it all, I have to make sure I do enough, but not too much business to deal with the IRS (who always wants to dip their hands in my pockets it seems)

I am no expert, though I would say I have a pretty good handle on connecting, networking and marketing and that helps. It always surprises people when they ACTUALLY see how much work I put into my business. I would first say to you, be sure that you really want to do this. As I said before, it is NOT easy. But if you love it, you pull up your boots straps and do what you gotta do!

If you are doing it as a hobby, you might not desire to put in as much effort as I do. That is up to you. I will let you decide. I will say however all the things I am going to tell you have moved me from a mere online existence to getting my brand out there, getting traffic on Social Media, turning that traffic into buyers, and getting my brand known more and more as I go.

1-Products-The one thing I learned early on this year is that I need product. That sounds simple, right? But just having a small selection of product is NOT enough. You need to have product to sell to the customer. One drawing here or there or one apron was not enough. Last year when I was focusing on my art I sold nothing when I had 2 or 3 drawings. Once I had a variety of over 20 for them to choose from, I sold more. People want to see what you have and I think it relates to the fact they are not a one trick pony and don’t want you to be either.

Part of products is staying true to the brand. I have had a hard time with and struggling at times. People want me to make all sorts of things but if it doesn’t stay true to my brand I am only doing myself a disservice. Don’t stray too far. Stay true to the brand. Sometimes I have to eloquently say to people, “thank you for the suggestion, but that does not stay true to my brand right now. I keep that in consideration for in the future for if I change it.”

2- Networking- Just making the items will not work. Sadly they don’t sell themselves. People may joke that an item is so good that it sells itself, but in reality…it does not. YOU have to do the work. I network. I buy myself a stack of Business Cards from 123print.com or moo.com and then I take them out with me. I get all my Trisha Trixie cards from123print because I can hand out more because the cost is lower but I still get some amazing looking quality cards. I do design them myself and use hi resolution pictures so they come out the best. If you don’t know design, getting a pal, college intern from your local community college or design school will keep the cost down. I use Moo.com for all my Modeling cards. They are a higher cost, even using their templates, but I don’t mind because they are a higher quality and I don’t hand them out as much.

Get on local websites like here we have www.catchdesmoines.com, www.desmoinesisnotboring.com, and then there are Chamber of Commerce site in your local areas like Downtown Des Moines Chamber of Commerce and others. Get on their email lists if you can to find out where the events are. Then you MUST go to them. Go mingle, share your passion, talk about what you do, your excitement and passion will come across and people will want you card. If you are an artist, having a selection of cards with small showings of you art is a good idea. If you are a model, pics of yourself, and for me, I have a pic of me in one of my aprons. Show what you do somehow some way.

Get out there, meet others, hand out your cards and in addition a part of Networking is going to events where you listen to a speaker or learn something. Take the time to do these as well. It will further your knowledge and thus further your career if you are able to take away that knowledge and apply it to what you do. Plus as you get further down the line, you could be asked to be a guest speaker and sharing your passion on the other side of the coin.

3- Marketing-I am often teased that I am the QUEEN of Marketing and Networking. I wouldn’t go THAT far, but I will say a funny story. After awhile going to events and marketing myself so much I was at an event and my friend said to another person “This is Trisha Trixie, she is like the Princess Mafia Connection, she is cute and well connected!” I never laughed so hard, but I even used that to my advantage and started a Linked In Group. It hasn’t taken off much, but I don’t want to let it go, because it was cute and such a great idea.

The reality is, that Marketing to me is thought of in the same manner as Networking. To me they go hand in hand. But you CAN take marketing further. People need to see your items, hear about your STUFF and connect with you, somehow, someway. How YOU do that will be up to you. How I do it is through a variety of means.

Facebook Pages are fabulous to me. Make one for yourself. This is different than your profile. A lot of people refuse to connect with a Business Profile, they only desire to connect to a page. I am the same.  Get yourself a Business Page, but here is the key…USE IT! write a post at least once a week, engage in your followers, ask them questions, ask them their comments or ideas, start a conversation. Upload pictures of your products. If it is art, watermark is or make sure it is signed so no one steals it, if you have a business name or quote that is yours, trademark it by adding ™ behind it so you can start tagging it and in the event someone TRIES to steal it you have proof. If you are super serious about Trademarking or Copyrighting find out more about it and start applying for them. I have been through 3 Trademark Infringements and 2 Copyright issues on written items, it is not fun and the first few times I lost. But once you properly protect yourself, you will be ready for the next guy that tries to take away your items by calling it their own.

3.0-Marketing Ladders– There is a new thing I found. Now this doesn’t mean it is NEW, I just mean to say I have found it and I feel like I have struck GOLD! Promotional Ladders on Facebook. In the Search bar enter Ladders or Promote. There you go. Choose one and copy and paste your Facebook page into the ladder.

Here is how “I” do it so not to waste time. I set a timer for 5 minutes. Find a ladder I want to connect with for the night. Copy my page in the ladder or one the front page stating “Could use some love on ______ (whatever your page name is) then add the link. Then I like all the items ABOVE me. If I have the time still left I might delve into a few of them deeper if they peak my interests and make sure the GET NOTIFICATIONS is checked and ADD TO INTEREST LIST. When the timer goes off, I am done. Someone recently said to me “I spent over 30 minutes on doing Ladders the other night.” Well, then that was a waste of your time. The output to input from those likes ratio just got diminished by you doing that.  What will happen is others will come like you as well. Should you send a message? Well, I don’t. Again to me it wastes time. Do I get message from others saying “Like from so and so page”, yes I do and then I take a special moment to go LIKE their page and make sure the GET NOTIFICATIONS is on. Why? Because I KNOW it takes time so if they took the time to send me a message I desire to return the favor.

4-Beautification- Just making things is only the first step. I know I keep saying that but I want to get it through to you that there are SO many more steps. Get yourself a good camera or Camera Phone to take pictures of your items, or have a photographer friend help you out. Don’t post up grainy, dark or blurry pics of your items and expect them to sell. Would you buy an apron if you couldn’t see it? No, you wouldn’t. But you would be surprised how many people do that.  Also if you are an artist get yourself a good scanner. Taking a picture of your art is not the same as a good scan. If you don’t have one, save your pennies and go to Kinkos or Staples to have them scan it for you. Make sure it is above 300 dpi. I have them scan my larger items at 600 dpi. Then I can use that image on any site large or small and make it look my best. I keep a small thumb drive just for my Kinkos and Staples trips. I also add my images on there from my home so when I am doing a show, I can take them to one of those places and get print off done. I use heavy paper of 60 weight or higher.I tried 38 lb and they were too flimsy. Test out a few weights and see what sells for you. If it is black and white and you want them to color it in, a lower weight is fine because you can roll it up and pop a rubber band on it. The heavier weights I also buy Sleeves from Hobby Lobby and slide my prints into the sleeves and sell that way.

Making items look their best is beneficial.

Another fun way is PicMonkey. It is a fun photo editing and collage web software. But don’t go crazy. Remember THE PRODUCT is the most important. IF you add to many flashy items and embellishments and logos, then you can’t see what is being sold.  There is a free version but I spend the $5 a month to gain access to the extra fonts and embellishments.  I also create Facebook Banners there as well as many other uses. Save your money paying for banners and logo and try them out here first.

5-Other Social Media Suggestions- I think the number #1 way to get your message across is through Hootsuite or a program like it. I started out with ping.fm and once I saw Hootsuite I fell in love.  Again, there is a free version, but I pay a little more each money to be able to get my message across to more places. If you have the free version I would suggest, Facebook, Linked In and Twitter to connect to. If you pay for the expanded version, add Linked In Groups, and Facebook Pages, Facebook Groups, and Google Pages like I do. In one sweep I can add a message to over 27 places. Bam, one and done. Again, less time, more ROI, Return on Investment in time and money.

Which leads me to the other extras: Join Facebook Groups which connect you to others in your craft or what you want to do. I am in groups for models, vendor shows, art groups and more. I also am in Linked In Groups that do the same.  Then I follow people on Twitter who either are in my craft or could connect me to others. Google Pages are new but I have already found value in them.

You are already blown away now aren’t you. See I told you it wasn’t easy. But I have streamlined my processes to make it easy. First you need to invest some time perhaps a whole day once to get connected with these groups and get set up on sites etc. But once you have done the front work, then maintaining is the key.

I pick Mondays to usually do all the big things I need to do. Then whenever I write a blog, I copy it into Hootsuite and tada, it goes across to all those groups and Twitter feeds etc I added before.

I also (most of the time) write my blogs ahead of time. I got out of sync with that and am working on getting myself back into the groove. But I also have learned to forgive myself and not beat myself up if I miss one. If my followers bring it to my attention, I put one together, but everyone leads a life and they understand if I don’t get to a blog one day.

The best advice I received recently was from Susan, from Business in Blue Jeans   when she told me to blog about recipes and what aprons to wear with them and to talk about the world around Aprons. Connecting with others and talking about what you love is essential. I also have added my HOW TOs like today. I know I have knowledge to share and I think the business is more than just Aprons. It is about me, Trisha Trixie the persona and the Brand.

Focusing on this has been very successful for me and really drawn people in. I blog, I copy the blog to Hootsuite and Independent Fashion Bloggers, Then I share it on Google and Stumble Upon. My hits have gone from 100 followers in January to over 5,000 now!

6-Online, Tradeshows or Both- Where to sell your items is essential. I do sell online and sadly have jumped around trying to find the right niche. Etsy is great if you have a little of product and can afford to pay because they hit you with fees and costs going in and coming out, for you AND the buyer. I found out about Goodsmiths and at first didn’t think I wanted to sell there because it appeared saturated with Aprons. Once I saw the cost benefit I found it to be worthy for me. Under 25 items was free but again I pay the little bit extra to sell more products. Their tool is easy to use and within two hours of putting an item up it sold! Then I was SOLD, on Goodsmiths!

I also do Tradeshows. I wanted to apply for a lot more but some of the shows require Liability and the costs are too high so I have to step back for now. I am working on those things but found through Craigslist and the other pages I mentioned shows I can sell my items in. Also because I was in a few shows last year, they generally reach back to to interested vendors to see if they want to do it again.  So all I have to do is fill out application, send check and I am ready.

For Tradeshows though, you might need to invest in a booth, a Tradeshow Board or set up or find visually appealing ways to show your items. I don’t know that there is a WRONG way but I know the most appealing beings people in. Also I rotate my items around throughout the show. Then if people come back around they might see something they didn’t see before. That is usually when I make sales.

Some sell online, some only do shows some like me do both. There is a cost for shows but if you can sell over and above the booth cost I feel it is worth it.

Is it worth it?

In the end I ask myself it is worth it. Is the thing I am going to do, the time I put in, the show I am going to do etc worth it. IF I feel it would not be a value of my time or effort I don’t do it. ROI, Return on Investment for the time I put into something has to be worth the output. Sometimes, I don’t know that until I do it. I recently did a show that I thought would easily bank $200, yet instead I sold $45.  So next year, when that show comes back around I will either do something else or just not do that one. As well, I have spent time on adding my items to Chiq. com and Pose.com to see if that would gain more traffic to my site and sales. When it did not I slowed down or on another site I dumped it all together.

You might have to test a few things out to get your groove and niche together.  See what works for you, see what doesn’t. If it doesn’t try something else. Keep going, keep moving forward. Don’t let the hates and saboteurs get in your head. Jealous people tend to be the worst because they see you happy and making money and they aren’t so they want to disrupt your life. Don’t let them. And if you fail, get back up again. Many a businesses I know as well as myself didn’t work the first time. Others will scoff at that too. Let those comments and words roll off your back. All that matters is you, your life, your business and if you want to do it and if you are enjoying it.

7-Training & Learning, aka Extra Curriculum- I found a few sites and books helpful for me. I try to have some downtime on Sundays to read learn and do the things that will help me grow and still learn. Since I am an adult not in college anymore, we need books and perhaps online courses to help keep our ideas and mind fresh. Plus some of these courses have been great connections to other places.

These are ones I did that you might explore and see if they could work for you

Right Brain Business Plan- A creative Way

Goddess Leonie Business Guidebook

From Good to Great, Why Some Companies Take the Leap

You Inc, The Art of Selling Yourself

Working for Good

The Starbucks Experience: 5 Principles for Turning Ordinary Into Extraordinary

…as well I want to link you back to my PERSONAL Knowledge and growth that has helped me. I write about that and have all the links to these and more on my blog, please take the time to read it and investigate these sources further. CLICK HERE

I hope all of these have helped. If there are any questions I could answer, comment, message me etc. I am happy to help in any way I can…

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

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Saturday Special: Guest Blog: Breaking the Gamer Code

Breaking the Gamer Code

By Michael Mandt

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Many non-gamers have come to me over the past few years and asked me about what it is to be a gamer. Not because they are necessarily looking to become a gamer, but to try and understand them, or even relate to them. I didn’t realize that this was a big issue at first. Is there some kind of great divide amongst gamers and non-gamers that I hadn’t really been aware of or privy to? Could there be a “gamer code” that can be analyzed and accessed by those who don’t know what a tabletop role-playing game is or how many cards are usually in a Magic the Gathering deck? I think there is something about gamers but that something isn’t as different from you as you might think.

So, what is a gamer? We could say that a gamer is anyone who plays games, but for this article we will define gamers as those individuals who more than enjoy hobby games like: Magic the Gathering, Dungeons and Dragons, World of Warcraft, Pathfinder, Talisman, Warhammer 40k, etc. These types of gamers are usually not casual players; they live their lives thinking about the game. What is the next step? How can I make my character better? What books, dice, or other accessories do I need to get? This drive and focus on the game is what sets gamers apart from those who are casual players or non-gamers.

What drives a gamer?

First off, obsession is not a way to describe most gamers. The terms I would like to use are, driven or focused. Gamers don’t usually live their games 24/7, but when they are at the table and the dice are in their hand, the great majority of them have left the world behind for a time to completely focus on their match or session. For a non-gamer, this might seem like something very strange. Yet, the same devotion to the gamer’s craft is the same that artists, craftsmen, people playing a sport, readers and movie goers experience while deep into their events.

Gaming is about the experience, the power, and about the social interaction. Yes, gamers like to be social! Even the most anti-social gamer enjoys showing others what they know about the game(s) that they love. The same way that a football quarterback throws a ball is in many ways like how a gamer designs their character or throws their dice. To a gamer, the sport is the intellectual application of the rules to achieve the best outcome—they want to kick ass and take names.

 How do you socialize with a gamer?

There are several things that a non-gamer can do to relate more to gamers. I could go into many examples of ways to respect and understand gamers, but for this article I will focus the top five.

Show interest in a game they love.

This really isn’t any different than talking with your friend, or significant other that isn’t a gamer. If you show interest in a game, a gamer is going to help show you why they love it, and how to be the best at it. The best way to become friends with a gamer, is to like some of the games they like to play. Now, sometimes, gamers won’t want to help teach a non-gamer how to play while they are in the middle of a tough match or a session, but just ask them nicely, “Can you teach me about this game when you have some time?” This will go a long way to getting around the drive or focus that most gamers have playing their game. Be patient with the gamer and they will respond when they have the time.

Don’t degrade what they do or how they dress.

Gamers are just like everyone else, they don’t like to be picked on. Telling a gamer that what they do is “weird” or “stupid” is the wrong thing to do, even even jest about. The game they have invested their time in is no different than a basketball player practicing for a game or a mechanic building a custom vehicle and collecting old muscle cars. In the moment of the game, it is their world and their character is their baby, just like that 1970 Dodge Challenger.

Gamers have been in their circles for awhile and many don’t have time or energy for things like staying up with the latest fashions or trends. If you think a gamer might look good in some type of clothing, just tell them, “Hey, I think you would look great in this!” You’ll get a lot more bugbears with honey than you will with giant wasps. Gamers will more than likely be happy to have someone looking out for them in this way, as long as your suggestions are not condescending. As a gamer myself, I am guilty of not being as trendy as others. I also know anytime that people give heartfelt advice about the way I look or maybe even another game I should look into, I will listen.

 Tell them straight that you like them.

For those who are looking to date a gamer, I could go into an entire article about techniques and advice, but the best advice I can give is, just ask them. In my experience, gamers are wonderful at understanding the complexities of the game, astrophysics, and complex number theories, but they aren’t as great at translating subtle hints. This may come from years of social isolation, fantasy immersion, or self-esteem issues. Just tell them how you feel, let them know you are interested and that you want to go out sometime and talk about their Warhammer army over coffee and donuts (the gamer equivalent might be mountain dew and pizza, but you get the idea).

This straight forward type of thing might not be what you are used to, but the gamer is not your usual prospective mate. Gamers are generally of a higher intelligence, loyalty, focus, and technologically skilled. While some gamers could rebuild your car, the majority would do better with rebuilding your computer or helping you with a long research paper or essay on English literature. Gamers are used to things being in rules, and dating is not usually something that you can read about in a book and know everything about. If you make yourself known to the gamer that you are interested and you want to go out, you will get much better results than using third parties or waiting for them to make the first move. One of the least favorite types games that a gamer likes to play are mind games.

Respect their time gaming

One of the number one questions I get about gamers from my non-gamer friends involves time. “Why is my boyfriend always playing magic?” “Why does D&D take five hours to play?” “I want my girlfriend to spend more time with me and less time playing World of Warcraft.” You are not alone, so first thing is, don’t panic. The gamer still enjoys being with you, they just are in the “gamer zone” and you will have to wait until they are out of it. Really, don’t try and control a gamer’s time during gaming by calling every 10 minutes, throwing their books or gaming system away, or deleting their characters. DON’T EVER MESS WITH A GAMERS GEAR. It is not the gear that you should be taking your frustrations out on, and if you do mess with a gamer’s gear, you might as well have just ended the relationship, because it’s over.

The best way to answer the time question, is to make time with them. Have a schedule, plan a date, or intimate dinner in advance. Don’t expect to be able to pull your significant other away from their scheduled event without a fight. You have to be patient, a gamer is deep in focus and just like a sport, they cannot stop until the game is over. Would you feel the same way about interrupting a tennis match, or a football game that your significant other is playing in? No, you would let them finish, it is no different with gamers. To pull the Dungeon Master away from the table, will ruin the night for all the othe players, just don’t do it. Wait until your gamer mate is done, and they will appreciate the patience you give them when it comes to their games. They will love you forever, if you accept that they love games and you.

Try and play a game with them.  

Even though you might not be a gamer, gamers love it when their friends, family, and significant others to play the games with them. You don’t have to be as hardcore or as driven as the gamer, but interest goes a long way to becoming a closer friend and understanding what they love. You might actually find out that you really like the games they play, and even become more interested in one game or another. One of the greatest feelings I’ve had with my friends is when I see them enjoying the games that I have introduced them too. Every time a girlfriend beat me in Magic, I was very happy to have introduced them to the game, I helped! And role-playing isn’t just something that you have to do at a table. Fantasy role-playing is great if you can enjoy it with the people you love. Girlfriends or boyfriends who really get into their characters can be great both at the table and when you are alone. Try interacting together in your characters outside of the game a little bit, I’ll bet you sparks fly.

In conclusion, gamers are like everyone else. If you prick them, they bleed; if you degrade them, they get sad; if you love them, they will love you. You may never be as driven and focused as the gamer, but you will find that most gamers are great friends to have. So, the next time you see a gamer that you don’t know go up and introduce yourself and see what they are into. You just might find that there is a little gamer inside you just waiting to roll initiative.

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Michael Mandt is an editor, writer and game organizer for www.chamberofchampions.com as well as lifelong gamer and role-player. Check him out on facebook at www.facebook.com/drakesylvan or at the Chamber of Champions website.

Saturday Special:ComicCon in Iowa??

Yes, but just a small one so they are calling it…

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Last year I was at an Artist Booth more for my Art.

That’s me , the blonde behind the table.

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But as I have evolved, this year I will have a mixture of Art and wares for all you Dames and Gents.

Pins for Dads and Men

Superhero Grab Bags for $5
SuperHero themed Vanity Scarfs for $10
Superhero Bows and Hair  Fascinators and Clips
SuperHero Earrings
Superhero Half Aprons
Large/Full Mens Aprons with SuperHero or Villian Theme
And Of course…ART…Trisha Trixie Apron Pin Up Art

So, get outta your jammies, put down your coffee and come on out to the MiniCon

1 day con/show that is smaller than the Comic Book I-CON but just as fun! Comic book vendors and other related merchandise as well as an Artist Area full of Iowa talent doing sketches and selling their projects! The cost is only $2 per person and kids 10 and under get in free with paid adult.

3200 Adventureland Drive, Altoona, Iowa 50009
See ya there!
Xoxo Trisha Trixie