Apronizing America

20130913_145841What does “Apronizing America ” mean, exactly?

This is a common thing I am asked quite often.

I believe that Aprons are a fashion accessory. I believe they can and should be worn out like one would wear a scarf, a necklace or a necktie. Apron can spice up ANY wardrobe, make, female, child, or even a pet or a doll!

When not wearing an apron out, I feel like I am leaving something behind.

But if I do, you can be sure that whatever I AM wearing is something I created, whether that is a Fascinator, a dress I made, my earrings, you name it, there is something from my creations.

Mostly, I love to make fashionable aprons because I hear the stigma of what people think an Apron is and I am not just out to get America to WEAR an Apron, I am trying to change a whole MINDSET!!

An Apron is NOT just for the Kitchen anymore and my aprons are NOT your grandma’s aprons.

I want to show you by creating fabulous things, dresses to go under them, fascinators to help accessorize them, and of course, Aprons that are spicy alternatives to dress up anything you wear or not wear (if you so prefer) to help add flair, spice and fabulousness to your life!

I am also NOT like other apron makers I have seen out there. Most work from their fabric in stock and create based on tissue paper patterns. Some design their own patterns, but then it is a constant “Cookie- Cutter” repeat of the same apron, with different fabric/textile.

I start from a Fashion Designer base FIRST! Meaning, I design based on the specs you give me in a quote from my Fashion Request Form. I then take that information and design within those parameters and then send you the design to approve. From there, within TWO WEEKS, I create your fabulous design.

You can choose if you want a Custom Apron or a BeSpoke Apron. Custom means I can use the design pattern I created for you and use it for another request. BeSpoke means you are the only one wit that design and it cannot be used for anything else.

You don’t see that from other Apron Makers, for the most part. I am sure there are one or two who “might” do that, but it is rare.

I feel and think this way of thinking has the potential to do as I desire and to help Apronize America because America will see how unique and different my aprons are as well as my mentality about wearing and using them.

Do I make Domestic Aprons? Yes, with Flair & Fabulousness!

Do I make other things? Yes, as long as they are true to my brand, meaning they will go WITH other things I create.

The questions I get asked most? Do I love what I do?

Yes. You know that song “Living what I love and loving what I do…”? That is the epitome of how I feel everyday.

What’s Next for Trisha Trixie?

Apron Builder. My Online Apron Creation Technology. On Apron Builder YOU are the designer. I give you the base template and you create what YOU desire. Then it gets printed and sent to you to construct by either sewing or other alternatives like No Stick Glue, Fabric Bond Adhesive or who knows, maybe you want to staple yours together! That is all on YOU!

What if I don’t want to use Apron Builder? Good thing you still have me! Trisha Trixie Designs will  still be the Custom BeSpoke Apron Maker and myself and my seamstresses will be available to be of service to you!

So, you see…there is no reason NOT to wear an apron and I have even made it simple and easy for you to do.

Now, Let’s Apronize America together!

Trisha Trixie Tips Tuesday-Taggarrifiic

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Just wanted to shout out to my pal Donna Grossman who owns That Girl Knitz, Rockabettie Bands and Rockabettie Boutique for her Taggarrific Tagging!

I learned a long time ago that is you want to be found online, if you have to TAG. If anyone knows how to tag it’s THAT GIRL (ha ha see what I did there)

I am a constant tagger too but even I lack tagging in certain categories that I see she had.

A good way to add tags to your own Blog or website is to do what I did today. Look at other sites that are similar to yours and copy their tags. There is nothing wrong with copying as long as it really does fit your site/blog. Search out sites that do similar things as you. look for blogs that are similar. I like Bloglovin because I can see other bloggers who do Fashion and Aprons and write in other ways like I do. Then I take a peek at their tags and see what they are tagging. Sometimes it is the same as mine, nothing new, but every now and then I come across a blogger who has completely different tags than I have and I think “Now why didn’t think of using that tag!?” When you see those, grab em! Copy them and add then to you Blog site or Website. Believe me, that one “little” tag could be the thing that gets you found online over other competitors!

If you don’t sell things Bikers would like, don’t use the tag word Biker. If you don’t sell Soap, don’t tag the word soap. Now if you write a blog about Soap, then Tag Soap. Am I making any sense here?

No, ok let’s go back. Only use tags for things you are talking about, selling, writing or doing.

But wait, you say, if  I use other tags that aren’t things I am doing, won’t that help bring business to my page? Well, you would think so. But what ends up happening is that people will come to your site looking for those items and then when they realize you don’t sell them and only used them to get you to their page, generally they get pretty upset about it.

If you want to use other tags to bring people to your site or page, the best way  I have found is to write a blog about those things. Then you can use the tags and write about them to generate more traffic.

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Until Next Time,

XoXo Trisha Trixie

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Time to Be Fabulous in 2015 #‎BeFabulousin2015‬ ‪#‎TrishaTrixieSaidSo‬

No matter who you are or what you do, shit happens. Scuse my french but it is true.

YOU are the only one who can pull up your Brastraps, Bootstraps or WHATEVER will lift you up and get your MOVING!

YOU are the only one who can rely on YOU.

People will WANT to be there with you.

People will WANT to help you.

People will TRY to be by your side.

But the reality is that YOU are the only one responsible for YOU!!

It is time to rise up, take life by the horns and #LetsDoThis in #2015

It is Time to #‎BeFabulousin2015‬ ‪#‎TrishaTrixieSaidSo‬

I have an E-Course coming out next year.

I have a NEW apron line coming out next year.

I have a NEW Couture line coming out next year.

and dammed if I will or dammed if I don’t I am DETERMINED to break out of the cycle, #getOutofMyOwnWay and #MakeMoney on #MyTerms !!

If you are ready to #‎BeFabulousin2015‬

If you are ready to change your mind today before tomorrow the NEW YEAR hits, I want you to shout it out, Share it on every Social Media you own and even those ones you forgot you had! #DOIT #Let’sDoThis #IamReady #TimetoBeFabulous

Use your little # pund sign and HASTAG away

#‎BeFabulousin2015‬ ‪#‎TrishaTrixieSaidSo‬ www.trishatrixie.com

See you next year!

BAMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!

….drops mic….

XOXO,

Trisha Trixie

Recipe for Fabulous : Be Beautiful, Inside and Out

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There   are many attractive   people out there,  but that doesn’t make them beautiful. I hear so many people say  they know someone who is gorgeous  on the outside but ugly on the inside.  To be truly fabulous ,  you must be both. Beautiful on the inside and out!

How do you do that?

Be Yourself. You do that by being yourself , for one. I like a quote I saw that said “Be yourself, everybody else is taken.” How true it is. Don’t worry about what others are saying or doing or wearing or being, don’t try to be them, just be you.

Love yourself. Fall in love with yourself. Every imperfection, every flaw, ever great thing and every mediocre thing. Realize you are not perfect and then accept those imperfections. Every thing that you are is WHO you are.  Be that person. down to the core.

Embrace your past. “You have to put your past behind you.” Isn’t that what the monkey said in Lion King? Whatever happened when you were younger, whatever someone said to you, or did to you, or treated you in the past, is just that…in the past. I don’t think we can truly “forget” it but see it for what it is…your character. All those things have made you who you are today. Embrace them. Welcome them into your heart. Those things in your past helped shape, you form you, build your character. I love my past. For every good, great and awful thing that happened.

Dig Deep. Dig deep down into your soul. Who are you? Are you a bitch? Are you an asshole? Are you sweet? Are you too trusting? ?Do you like who you are? Do you want to change who you are? When you dig deep, way down to the core, it can be very hard. I have done it and I had to take a good hard look at myself and  decide if I liked that person or not. The areas I didn’t like I then had to decide if I cared and if I wanted to change them or not. I truly believe when things are miserable enough, awful enough and you don’t like them enough, that’s when you change and grow. But just like an illness of alcoholism or other drugs, you have to see the problem and accept it before you can change and grow. You think comparing yourself to a drug is odd? Well, think about this…if you are allowing yourself to be toxic to yourself, it is a drug. If you are allowing others to be toxic to you, it is a drug. How so? Well, toxicity IS a DRUG. Some people FEED off it. They feed off the drama. They feed off the attention. They are addicted to their story. They are addicted to being a “victim” so much so, that they can’t see past it. They wonder “Why is my life always have problems?” or “Why does drama always happen to me or around me?” yet failing to see how they are thriving on it like they would a drug. You have to recognize it, then tackle the problem. Once you do then you can conquer those things and issues that are holding you back from becoming the best you that you can be. Digging deep and seeing yourself for who you REALLY are is hard. I won’t lie. It can really hurt your heart when you see how you have been acting or treating others or what toxicness you have allowed in your soul. But do not dwell on that. See it for what it is and then be determined to change it.

Set, Make, and Keep Boundaries. I have talked about this before. The very best thing you can do for yourself is to Set, Make and Keep boundaries for yourself. Set them by writing them down on a piece of paper or online. Make them by taking action on them. Keep them by not allowing other over the line of those boundaries. Past boyfriends, ex husbands or wives, family members or those really close to you are the hardest to keep those boundaries with. We think we need to allow them to keep treating us like dirt and you know what…YOU DON’T! Never allow anyone to diminish your shine!  Hold to your boundaries. Do not be like Bugs Bunny and Yosemite Same and keep saying “Do not cross this line” then let them cross the line and make a new line. Make your line, be firm, stick to it. At first it will suck. It will hurt. It will be hard. I am not gonna lie. But after a few more times and then those toxic people either leave because you’re not fun to play with anymore because they can’t hurt you because you won’t let them….or you see those people for who they REALLY are and you finally let go of them and their issues and drama. When you do, a huge weight will life and you will stand there in an air like a feather or happiness and you will say to yourself “Why did I let that go on for so long. I am SO much happier now” Just because to not swell on the fact that you let it go on. Do not beat yourself up about it. Embrace it, and when another comes around, hold to your boundary once again. It is the best way to love yourself and be true to yourself that will make your soul shine and your inner beauty really start shining through.

Be Determined. Be determined to be better. Be the best. Be Fabulous. The new road to getting past all that can take time. It can take some real hard soul searching. It can hurt to see what you have allowed in your life from others and possibly yourself. But there are ways to get through it. I did by taking Soul Restoration I and II from Brave Girls Club.. I am going to start next year in Soul School and reconnect with my own soul. SR really helped me reach deep and see the pain, hurt and heartache I was carrying around with me. Once I got past it and really opened up my soul to all the great things, I felt like a weight had been lifted from me and I was no longer carrying bricks of defeat around anymore. I took some other courses at the same time to help my business and reach for my dreams such as When I grow Up, Right Brain Business Plan and Amazing Biz Life Academy which also made a VAST difference in me reaching and going for my dreams! Last year I took Susan B Moe’s Business in Blue Jeans webinar and it changed my life not to mention joining the best inspiration of my life Miss Stephanie St. Claire and her 7 Miracles along with Blissbomed which got me out of a victim mindset and into healing, success and life changes I never thought I could have!

Be Mindful. How do you be mindful? Well, most of all keep learning. You don’t have to be an eternal student racking up debt to be mindful either. With the internet at the tips of our fingers, there is SO much to be able to take part of free, and at some cost. Craftsy, You Tube, Udacity, and even just searching on Google will help you find what you need to learn, to grow, to read books, watch videos, etc. There is no reason why you aren’t learning what you need to know or desire to know. If you don’t have a computer, go to the library. You can use the computers there, or go to a resource center in your area as many of them have computers you can use for free as well. Ask a family member or a friend to let you use one or look online Craigslist or Ebay or such and find a used laptop or desktop and get what you need. Plus each area has some form of Community Classes or Adult Education that you take part in for free or minimal costs to learn and grow your mind. To have a beautiful mind you have to exercise it, challenge it, grow it and what I like to say ABL, Always Be Learning.

Take Care of You. On the outward appearance side of things your tasks are geared toward taking care of yourself. I don’t believe you have to be a certain weight or certain height or wear a certain set of clothes, etc to be Beautiful. I think it goes back to getting down to the core of things. Take care of yourself, eat right, get enough sleep, exercise to help your body be healthy as well as it does have some fit factors, take care of your teeth, your hair, your body and your clothes. If all those things are in good shape, then you are set. If not, take a personal assessment and make changes where you need to or want to. Not sure where to start? Think about a life coach or even search online for Personal Assessment or Health Assessment or something in that realm. If you want to change your clothes search for Updating my Wardrobe ideas. If you want to update your Hairstyle, look for those ideas. Again, there are SO many resources you can lean on. Even the most kempt together person needs a little improvement here or there. I recently did a health assessment and realized if I worked out more I would FEEL healthier and have more energy. I looked at my hairdo and decided I wanted something different so I searched for Redhead bangs and found some cute style so I can start the new year with a bang, with BETTIE BANGS! 🙂 I also am not afraid to ask. Ask others for hand me downs, ideas, or help. Get an Accountability Partner for you, your goals or even your business. Someone who has the same mindset as you and wants to have an Accountability Partner too will help you both. Meet once a week online, over the phone or in person if you can and hash over your goals and where you are each week. It will really make a difference.

Full Circle Fabulous. Bringing it all together. I am sure I could go on and there are other deeper things to add, but I think the essence is here. If you follow these things are start on your path, take some initiative to make the necessary changes in your life and to make your life better, then you will be on the road to your heart and mind to help yourself to be a complete package.

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

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Me and my new do!

 

Trisha Trixie Tuesday! Bespoke (Custom-Made-to-Order-MadetoMeasure)

What’s “Bespoke”?

Bespoke is an adjective for anything commissioned to a particular specification. “Custom-made”, “made to order”, “made to measure” and sometimes “hand-made” are near-synonyms.

The word bespoke is derived from the verb to bespeak, to “speak for something”, in the specialized meaning “to give order for it to be made” or commission, first cited from 1583 by the OED, with the adjective in its alternative form “bespoken” first quoted from 1607 in this sense.[1] The term is generally more prevalent in British English than American English, which tends to use “custom” instead, as in custom car, custom motorcycle etc.

So, with the bespoke items available from Trisha Trixie, you can create a customized items JUST FOR YOU! How do you do that?

GO HERE! Pick out the colors and fabric and Trisha Trixie will do the rest!

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What do YOU think about being able to customize a product just for you? Do you like or dislike it?

WE WANNA KNOW!

Until next time,

Xoxo

Recipe for Fabulous- Be Confident

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Be Confident

This can get confused with arrogance, but I seem to notice that those who say I am arrogant are actually ones who are not confident with themselves.

They have a deeper insecurity perhaps or they were raised not to be proud or boastful and think you are being outlandish.

I say, GOOD! Be outlandish if you desire to be. You might have to test out that Fabulous confidence a bit to find the right blend that works for you.

If you constantly feel out of your element in what you think acting and owning Fabulous means, maybe tone it down a notch or two.

If you feel like you are not quite there, amp it up! Be you, Be Fabulous You.

You can just look at this picture and know these women are confident. They hold themselves well. They are dressed well. They are not slouching or hunched over. Their clothes are not torn or baggy. Their hair is well done and their makeup is immaculate.

Let’s take for example Tina Fey. I know what you are thinking already…

…but she is a star, she has people make her look that way. But I want you to look past the hair and makeup. Look at HOW she is standing. She is upright, confident, proud. She is happy, look in her eyes. She loves what she does. Look at her smile. Look at her stance. She is has her hands on her hips. Did you know all the gestures you do and make during the day signifies things about you? Well they do. This one signifies that she is “Ready for Action!” She could conquer the world, take on America, and whatever else she wants to do, she knows she can do it. Why, because she has confidence. You know she does. You can see it right there!

 

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Resource for Gestures taken from The 13 Most Common Gestures You’ll See Daily

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The other thing about this picture with Tina I like is that her arms are open. I saw a few pics with ladies standing tall, but their arms were closed. The article here doesn’t say but in other research I have found and know that closed arms are a gesture of safety. When doing interviews I was always told,”don’t cross your legs or cross your arms. It gives the impression of being closed off and protective”  Hey sometimes, I am just cold LOL Now I just sit on my hands.

So be careful about crossing things.

Remain open and tall.

When I was in Ballet the teacher would say

“Imagine there is an imaginary string pulling you from the top of your head and it is pull you up to the sky”

I still do this today and funny enough, even when in flats people will ask me if I am 5’7 ,5’9 and are shocked to hear me say I am only 5’5. They then look at my feet to see if I am wearing heel and then reply and comment

“You wear yourself well”

SO I challenge you ladies (and gents) to go Be Confident. Wear yourself Well. Find pride in the things you do. Wear makeup even if it is only for yourself. I posted onmy personal FB page this week , a quote from Danille La Porte Life is Short and I am relinking it here.

A few things I liked from it can be applied here

…wear perfume for yourself. toss your only-wear-around-the-house clothes and let your good clothes graduate to around-the-house status…

fall in love. with yourself…

I couldn’t agree more. If you do, you WILL Be Confident. You will WALK confident, TALK confident, DO BUSINESS confidently, BRUSH YOUR HAIR confidently, EAT confidently, MAKE BETTER CHOICES confidently…and little by little this will translate and transform you into a thriving CONFIDENT human you didn’t even know was in you.

BE CONFIDENT my lovelies…

Until Next Time,

XOXO

~Trisha Trixie

Recipe for Fabulous: Fabulous Tip #01

Be Fabulous Commandments

 

I would like to start off by introducing myself, and why I think I am a good person to lead you on your quest to Be Fabulous. My full name is Patricia Ann Hunter, but most of you know me by Trisha Trixie. I am 44 (though I don’t look it), and I am a lover of life.

I am Fabulous.

I could go into a long drawn out reason explaining all the many things I have been through. Why they affected me and what they did to me, but to me that is just dwelling on the past.

I could have looked at my life and said I give up and as I said I tried. When I got my senses back, I pulled up my bootstraps and dusted myself off I realized…I was actually blessed.
I know you might think I am a whack-o-doodle for saying that, however; I think there are many times in life people only see the telescope of life in front of them and see me. I choose to look at the Kaleidoscope of Life. Life is really beautiful; you just have to open your mind to it all.
I could have turned away from life, dug myself into a hole and stayed there; I could have pulled the covers up over my head, and told the world I was not going to come out. You may have felt like that as well.

The reality is: Life Happens.

We need to just get on with it because it is going to go one no matter what. I don’t want to walk around grouchy, grumpy, or angry.
I choose to live it in a happy, blissful state of mind.
I choose to not let the trials and burdens of life and people weigh me down anymore.
I choose to be me.
You were meant to be who you are.
I choose to Be Fabulous!

Isn’t it time for YOU to Be the Fabulous person you were meant to be?

Xoxo

Trisha Trixie

Trisha Trixie Signature Apron $150

Trisha Trixie Signature Apron $150

Recipe for Fabulous

It’s a new month and new idea. Recipes on How to Be Fabulous.

I know you are used to receiving REAL recipes on Sundays.

You are used to seeing mouthwatering food and meals.

You are used to pictures of food and listing of tablespoons of this or that.

Here’s the thing….

It’s not working. My mentor suggested to me to TRY doing Recipes on Sundays and ok, I tried. I tried to have guests write in, I tried to make them, have others make them and well, it’s just not working.

Plus, here’s the other thing….Recipes, true recipes are conventional means for conventional aprons.

So, now that I have completed a short stint of Venture School, now that I have re-focused my attentions to help others understand that my aprons are not your grandmas apron and they are a fashion accessory I also realized I need to help you realize not only their fabulousness but the fabulousness of yourself.

So from now on you will receive a Recipe for Fabulous.

Here is your first and more important Recipe for Fabulous. I hand this out at all my trade shows, events etc. This not only has my recipe for fabulous but it has the Be Fabulous Mantra, which is…

Be Brave!

Be Bold!

Be Fearless!

Be Fabulous!

Enjoy your first Recipes for Fabulous and stay tuned each week for the ALL New Recipes for Fabulous!

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RePost : Fashionista Fall Fashion Tips by Trisha Trixie

Fashionista Fall Fashion Tips (via Des Moines is NOT Boring)

This year I was lucky enough to go to BOTH February and September’s New York Fashion Week. Since fall has started arriving upon us, I thought I would share about the upcoming fall fashion from the NYFW runway to Des Moines. Fall is always about a…

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Fabulous Friday: Being Fabulous

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What does it mean to Be Fabulous?

A good friend recently pointed out to me, that perhaps people don’t know what Fabulous means, what does one do, how does one act, etc. So I thought I would take today to comment on that.

The Free Dictonary defines it this way

fab·u·lous  (fby-ls)

adj.

1. Barely credible; astonishing: the fabulous endurance of a marathon runner.
2. Extremely pleasing or successful: a fabulous vacation.
3.

a. Of the nature of a fable or myth; legendary.
b. Told of or celebrated in fables or legends.

[Middle English, mythical, from Old French fabuleux, from Latin fbulsus, from fbula, fable; see fable.]

fabu·lous·ly adv.
fabu·lous·ness n.
Ok now how many other of you saw that word Legendary and thought of Barney Stinson? Ok me too, so here ya go, I just had to
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1. Owning up to YOUR Fabulous
I feel that to Be Fabulous you need to have own up to your Fabulousness. You, who you are and how you are is ALREADY Fabulous! A phrase I learned from Stephanie St. Claire was “All things are already mine” I thought, “Snap, that is just like being Fabulous. There is nothing we have to do, or say or become, we already ARE Fabulous! just as we are!”
I don’t want to taut all these thing for who you have to be or how you are. You know who you are. Owning up to who you are, what type of person you are, what your body shape is or isn’t,  what your life is and so on. Anyone, ANY…ONE can be Fabulous.
2-Attitude of Fabulous
Which means-Deciding you ARE Fabulous and then own it. Barney never had anyone tell him he was Legendary, he decided he was and then acted in that manner. I decided I was Fabulous and act in a manner that says so that works for me. That is important because perhaps you are shy. It is not like you are going to start shouting from the rooftops (though I would) I am FABULOUS! Do what feels comfortable to own it, but if you get a chance to step outside of the shell, I think you will find new fabulousness waiting you never knew existed.
Most importantly, have a positive attitude, be grateful for your life and what you have, who you are, desire to be kind to another, and have dignity and integrity. Smile, be happy, compliment others, take compliments well, enjoy life, enjoy all things of life, good AND bad.  Be confident, go out once in awhile, clean up or do your makeup daily, even if you are not going out, a little mascara, blush and balm always help me feel fabulous. If you are not a makeup wearer, or perhaps a guy reading this, do whatever it takes to keep yourself clean and groomed. When I was very down because of a break up, once I crawled out from under the covers and at least brushed my hair and washed my face, I feel SO much better. Feeling good, makes you feel happy, when you are happy, others are happy, when others and you are happy you tend to start feeling fabulous.
3-Be Confident
This can get confused with arrogance, but I seem to notice that those who say I am arrogant are actually ones not confident with themselves. They have a deeper insecurity perhaps or they were raised not to be proud or boastful and think you are being outlandish. I say, GOOD! Be outlandish if you desire to be. You might have to test out that Fabulous Confidence a bit to find the right blend that works for you.
If you constantly feel out of your element in what you think acting and owning Fabulous means, maybe tone it down a notch or two. If you feel like you are not quite there, amp it up!  Be you, Be Fabulous You.
4-Learning Fabulous
There are books and I will give you a  few to read, with caution.
One of the first things I see a LOT of these books say I get a new wardrobe. Now, maybe you NEED a new wardrobe, but maybe you don’t. Most likely you just need a good friend or someone you trust or even a Fashion Advisor to help you leverage the items you already have and make your wardrobe better. That COULD be the case. But I don’t want you thinking that you need to rush out and buy a new wardrobe.
My sister loves flannel shirts. That is her. She is a flannel shirt girl. Would that work for me? No. But let me tell you, she rocks the flannel shirt and it works for her. Does she look amazing when she dresses up? Sure don’t we all, but that doesn’t mean she can’t rock that flannel shirt and still be fabulous because she can.
Understand rubberband?
Ok so here are some books…
Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It – Kimora Lee Simmons.
and my idol…
Style A to Zoe: The Art of Fashion, Beauty, & Everything Glamour Rachel Zoe.
5-Keep it Together
Ok so another rant. I feel most fabulous when my home and desk and life are clean and organized. I love wwwFlylady.com and how she helps others to get their life clean and ways to STAY Clean.  But I also know a few people who throw things on the floor and all about and if you clean it they have no clue where anything is. Being clean and organized is great and I think for me it makes a vast difference.
Again, try what works for you. Go to Fly Lady and test out her methods. They are very simple and I love how easy they integrate into other things in my life.  I now have these habits because of her (even if nothing else gets done)…
Always put my shoes on
Swish the toilet with a brush daily
Always keep my sink clean and shiny
and like I said I add one, groom myself daily
6- Love Yourself
If you don’t love you, who will? You are your own best friend and your own worst enemy. Don’t let the self talk be negative talk. Let it be positive, uplifting talk. No mean talk to yourself. Let go of your past and those who hurt you. Decide you are NOT a victim anymore.  You are Fabulous.
If you feel this is hard to do I have a suggestion for you. Read how I went from Fragile to Fabulous
There is SO much more to my story and if you really want to know, there is a whole blog for you to read at As Days Go By
The short version of that is I lost my father at  young age, I was molested, raped, beaten, bruised, divorce, lost custody of children, struggled, was homeless, lost businesses, sacrificed and lived a lot of my life feeling like I was a victim. If you have been through something, I probably have to or something like it. I look at those things in my life as experiences to help me to help you.
If I can smile and look life in the face of it all and Be Fabulous…YOU can too!
7-Be Friendly
If you are friendly to others, they will want to be your friend. Fabulous people attract friends because people are drawn to them. Say hi. Compliment others. Talk about similar likes and once in awhile dislikes (just don’t get hung up on the negative). Smile. Be inviting to things or groups you are in. If you see others standing alone, invite them in. If you are the one alone, and someone else invites you, go try it out. Be engaging and discuss things with them. To have a friend is to be a friend.
8-Have Fun
Laugh. Smile. Watch comedy shows if need be. Just enjoy life. don’t worry about what others think, just go do and be what you like to do to have fun. Ok, disclaimer…if you are a psychopath and like to kill others for fun please don’t do that. But if you want to swing on swings, do it (which btw is my like ultimate favorite thing to do in like always) . If you want to plank on the hot ground, do it. If you want to be silly, do it. If you want to crochet all day or knit or sew, do it. YOU know what you like to do for fun and what fun means to you. Do that and be that.
If you DON”T know what fun means, try some things out until you do.
I also have a De-Suckify List I learned from Leonie Dawson. I made a list of things to do when I feel life suck or I am not “in a good mood” On my list”
 
Watch a funny movie
Play Fun Music
Go outside
Take a shower
Create
Collage
Meditate
Breathe
9-Stay True to You
I am making some suggestions for things, but I want you to stay true to you as well. Don’t change just to change. Change, grow evolve because you desire to. Don’t EVER change for someone else or compromise your boundaries or values.  You know what you feel comfortable with and you generally know when you have crossed the line. If you do cross it and you don’t feel right, remember that you can ALWAYS walk away. If it doesn’t fit, feel right, or more uncomfortable than you can be, then try something else, walk way. Above all, be you.
10-Trixie Fabulousity
On this last note, I want to share how I go about Being and Feeling Fabulous. Some of you who know me personally already know some of these things and will sit there nodding your head saying to yourself “Yep, that Trixie!”
*I wake happy. If I am not happy, I get happy.
*Limit my time online (I actually set a timer)
*While online enjoy positive and uplifting things*Do what I want each day. Seriously. Some days I get up and want to work in my studio. Some days I want to lie around and watch movies. Now I realize that not everyone has the life I have, but even so, do what you want and enjoy it. IF you are not enjoying it, why are you doing it?
*I listen to uplifting music during the day.
*Take regular breaks
*Go to events
*Socialize with others
*Take Chances and Leaps for things I desire and goals I am reaching for
*Meet new people everywhere I go
*Say Hello Fabulous to others often
*Say Be Fabulous instead of saying goodbye
*Be VERY Happy and smile…ALOT
*Be energetic
*Be driven
*Be audacious and ostentatious (basically be “over the top”)
*Live vicariously thru myself
I quote what I said on FB
“I’m every man’s dream and every girls inspiration. I’m awesome in a FABULOUS package. I’m confident strong and determined. Success is my only option failures not. I live life vicariously thru myself. I enjoy the show. I protect my soul house fiercely. My boundary lines are unmovable. I’m Authentic Real Unique. I’m me.”
I close with what I said on my picture for today. I am not perfect. Hell, none of us are. But I own up to the me I am. I own up to my successes as well as my failures. I am no longer breakable. I am no longer a victim. I am me….and I am…

FABULOUS

Saturday Special: Guest Blog: Breaking the Gamer Code

Breaking the Gamer Code

By Michael Mandt

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Many non-gamers have come to me over the past few years and asked me about what it is to be a gamer. Not because they are necessarily looking to become a gamer, but to try and understand them, or even relate to them. I didn’t realize that this was a big issue at first. Is there some kind of great divide amongst gamers and non-gamers that I hadn’t really been aware of or privy to? Could there be a “gamer code” that can be analyzed and accessed by those who don’t know what a tabletop role-playing game is or how many cards are usually in a Magic the Gathering deck? I think there is something about gamers but that something isn’t as different from you as you might think.

So, what is a gamer? We could say that a gamer is anyone who plays games, but for this article we will define gamers as those individuals who more than enjoy hobby games like: Magic the Gathering, Dungeons and Dragons, World of Warcraft, Pathfinder, Talisman, Warhammer 40k, etc. These types of gamers are usually not casual players; they live their lives thinking about the game. What is the next step? How can I make my character better? What books, dice, or other accessories do I need to get? This drive and focus on the game is what sets gamers apart from those who are casual players or non-gamers.

What drives a gamer?

First off, obsession is not a way to describe most gamers. The terms I would like to use are, driven or focused. Gamers don’t usually live their games 24/7, but when they are at the table and the dice are in their hand, the great majority of them have left the world behind for a time to completely focus on their match or session. For a non-gamer, this might seem like something very strange. Yet, the same devotion to the gamer’s craft is the same that artists, craftsmen, people playing a sport, readers and movie goers experience while deep into their events.

Gaming is about the experience, the power, and about the social interaction. Yes, gamers like to be social! Even the most anti-social gamer enjoys showing others what they know about the game(s) that they love. The same way that a football quarterback throws a ball is in many ways like how a gamer designs their character or throws their dice. To a gamer, the sport is the intellectual application of the rules to achieve the best outcome—they want to kick ass and take names.

 How do you socialize with a gamer?

There are several things that a non-gamer can do to relate more to gamers. I could go into many examples of ways to respect and understand gamers, but for this article I will focus the top five.

Show interest in a game they love.

This really isn’t any different than talking with your friend, or significant other that isn’t a gamer. If you show interest in a game, a gamer is going to help show you why they love it, and how to be the best at it. The best way to become friends with a gamer, is to like some of the games they like to play. Now, sometimes, gamers won’t want to help teach a non-gamer how to play while they are in the middle of a tough match or a session, but just ask them nicely, “Can you teach me about this game when you have some time?” This will go a long way to getting around the drive or focus that most gamers have playing their game. Be patient with the gamer and they will respond when they have the time.

Don’t degrade what they do or how they dress.

Gamers are just like everyone else, they don’t like to be picked on. Telling a gamer that what they do is “weird” or “stupid” is the wrong thing to do, even even jest about. The game they have invested their time in is no different than a basketball player practicing for a game or a mechanic building a custom vehicle and collecting old muscle cars. In the moment of the game, it is their world and their character is their baby, just like that 1970 Dodge Challenger.

Gamers have been in their circles for awhile and many don’t have time or energy for things like staying up with the latest fashions or trends. If you think a gamer might look good in some type of clothing, just tell them, “Hey, I think you would look great in this!” You’ll get a lot more bugbears with honey than you will with giant wasps. Gamers will more than likely be happy to have someone looking out for them in this way, as long as your suggestions are not condescending. As a gamer myself, I am guilty of not being as trendy as others. I also know anytime that people give heartfelt advice about the way I look or maybe even another game I should look into, I will listen.

 Tell them straight that you like them.

For those who are looking to date a gamer, I could go into an entire article about techniques and advice, but the best advice I can give is, just ask them. In my experience, gamers are wonderful at understanding the complexities of the game, astrophysics, and complex number theories, but they aren’t as great at translating subtle hints. This may come from years of social isolation, fantasy immersion, or self-esteem issues. Just tell them how you feel, let them know you are interested and that you want to go out sometime and talk about their Warhammer army over coffee and donuts (the gamer equivalent might be mountain dew and pizza, but you get the idea).

This straight forward type of thing might not be what you are used to, but the gamer is not your usual prospective mate. Gamers are generally of a higher intelligence, loyalty, focus, and technologically skilled. While some gamers could rebuild your car, the majority would do better with rebuilding your computer or helping you with a long research paper or essay on English literature. Gamers are used to things being in rules, and dating is not usually something that you can read about in a book and know everything about. If you make yourself known to the gamer that you are interested and you want to go out, you will get much better results than using third parties or waiting for them to make the first move. One of the least favorite types games that a gamer likes to play are mind games.

Respect their time gaming

One of the number one questions I get about gamers from my non-gamer friends involves time. “Why is my boyfriend always playing magic?” “Why does D&D take five hours to play?” “I want my girlfriend to spend more time with me and less time playing World of Warcraft.” You are not alone, so first thing is, don’t panic. The gamer still enjoys being with you, they just are in the “gamer zone” and you will have to wait until they are out of it. Really, don’t try and control a gamer’s time during gaming by calling every 10 minutes, throwing their books or gaming system away, or deleting their characters. DON’T EVER MESS WITH A GAMERS GEAR. It is not the gear that you should be taking your frustrations out on, and if you do mess with a gamer’s gear, you might as well have just ended the relationship, because it’s over.

The best way to answer the time question, is to make time with them. Have a schedule, plan a date, or intimate dinner in advance. Don’t expect to be able to pull your significant other away from their scheduled event without a fight. You have to be patient, a gamer is deep in focus and just like a sport, they cannot stop until the game is over. Would you feel the same way about interrupting a tennis match, or a football game that your significant other is playing in? No, you would let them finish, it is no different with gamers. To pull the Dungeon Master away from the table, will ruin the night for all the othe players, just don’t do it. Wait until your gamer mate is done, and they will appreciate the patience you give them when it comes to their games. They will love you forever, if you accept that they love games and you.

Try and play a game with them.  

Even though you might not be a gamer, gamers love it when their friends, family, and significant others to play the games with them. You don’t have to be as hardcore or as driven as the gamer, but interest goes a long way to becoming a closer friend and understanding what they love. You might actually find out that you really like the games they play, and even become more interested in one game or another. One of the greatest feelings I’ve had with my friends is when I see them enjoying the games that I have introduced them too. Every time a girlfriend beat me in Magic, I was very happy to have introduced them to the game, I helped! And role-playing isn’t just something that you have to do at a table. Fantasy role-playing is great if you can enjoy it with the people you love. Girlfriends or boyfriends who really get into their characters can be great both at the table and when you are alone. Try interacting together in your characters outside of the game a little bit, I’ll bet you sparks fly.

In conclusion, gamers are like everyone else. If you prick them, they bleed; if you degrade them, they get sad; if you love them, they will love you. You may never be as driven and focused as the gamer, but you will find that most gamers are great friends to have. So, the next time you see a gamer that you don’t know go up and introduce yourself and see what they are into. You just might find that there is a little gamer inside you just waiting to roll initiative.

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Michael Mandt is an editor, writer and game organizer for www.chamberofchampions.com as well as lifelong gamer and role-player. Check him out on facebook at www.facebook.com/drakesylvan or at the Chamber of Champions website.