Recipe for Fabulous : Be Beautiful, Inside and Out

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There   are many attractive   people out there,  but that doesn’t make them beautiful. I hear so many people say  they know someone who is gorgeous  on the outside but ugly on the inside.  To be truly fabulous ,  you must be both. Beautiful on the inside and out!

How do you do that?

Be Yourself. You do that by being yourself , for one. I like a quote I saw that said “Be yourself, everybody else is taken.” How true it is. Don’t worry about what others are saying or doing or wearing or being, don’t try to be them, just be you.

Love yourself. Fall in love with yourself. Every imperfection, every flaw, ever great thing and every mediocre thing. Realize you are not perfect and then accept those imperfections. Every thing that you are is WHO you are.  Be that person. down to the core.

Embrace your past. “You have to put your past behind you.” Isn’t that what the monkey said in Lion King? Whatever happened when you were younger, whatever someone said to you, or did to you, or treated you in the past, is just that…in the past. I don’t think we can truly “forget” it but see it for what it is…your character. All those things have made you who you are today. Embrace them. Welcome them into your heart. Those things in your past helped shape, you form you, build your character. I love my past. For every good, great and awful thing that happened.

Dig Deep. Dig deep down into your soul. Who are you? Are you a bitch? Are you an asshole? Are you sweet? Are you too trusting? ?Do you like who you are? Do you want to change who you are? When you dig deep, way down to the core, it can be very hard. I have done it and I had to take a good hard look at myself and  decide if I liked that person or not. The areas I didn’t like I then had to decide if I cared and if I wanted to change them or not. I truly believe when things are miserable enough, awful enough and you don’t like them enough, that’s when you change and grow. But just like an illness of alcoholism or other drugs, you have to see the problem and accept it before you can change and grow. You think comparing yourself to a drug is odd? Well, think about this…if you are allowing yourself to be toxic to yourself, it is a drug. If you are allowing others to be toxic to you, it is a drug. How so? Well, toxicity IS a DRUG. Some people FEED off it. They feed off the drama. They feed off the attention. They are addicted to their story. They are addicted to being a “victim” so much so, that they can’t see past it. They wonder “Why is my life always have problems?” or “Why does drama always happen to me or around me?” yet failing to see how they are thriving on it like they would a drug. You have to recognize it, then tackle the problem. Once you do then you can conquer those things and issues that are holding you back from becoming the best you that you can be. Digging deep and seeing yourself for who you REALLY are is hard. I won’t lie. It can really hurt your heart when you see how you have been acting or treating others or what toxicness you have allowed in your soul. But do not dwell on that. See it for what it is and then be determined to change it.

Set, Make, and Keep Boundaries. I have talked about this before. The very best thing you can do for yourself is to Set, Make and Keep boundaries for yourself. Set them by writing them down on a piece of paper or online. Make them by taking action on them. Keep them by not allowing other over the line of those boundaries. Past boyfriends, ex husbands or wives, family members or those really close to you are the hardest to keep those boundaries with. We think we need to allow them to keep treating us like dirt and you know what…YOU DON’T! Never allow anyone to diminish your shine!  Hold to your boundaries. Do not be like Bugs Bunny and Yosemite Same and keep saying “Do not cross this line” then let them cross the line and make a new line. Make your line, be firm, stick to it. At first it will suck. It will hurt. It will be hard. I am not gonna lie. But after a few more times and then those toxic people either leave because you’re not fun to play with anymore because they can’t hurt you because you won’t let them….or you see those people for who they REALLY are and you finally let go of them and their issues and drama. When you do, a huge weight will life and you will stand there in an air like a feather or happiness and you will say to yourself “Why did I let that go on for so long. I am SO much happier now” Just because to not swell on the fact that you let it go on. Do not beat yourself up about it. Embrace it, and when another comes around, hold to your boundary once again. It is the best way to love yourself and be true to yourself that will make your soul shine and your inner beauty really start shining through.

Be Determined. Be determined to be better. Be the best. Be Fabulous. The new road to getting past all that can take time. It can take some real hard soul searching. It can hurt to see what you have allowed in your life from others and possibly yourself. But there are ways to get through it. I did by taking Soul Restoration I and II from Brave Girls Club.. I am going to start next year in Soul School and reconnect with my own soul. SR really helped me reach deep and see the pain, hurt and heartache I was carrying around with me. Once I got past it and really opened up my soul to all the great things, I felt like a weight had been lifted from me and I was no longer carrying bricks of defeat around anymore. I took some other courses at the same time to help my business and reach for my dreams such as When I grow Up, Right Brain Business Plan and Amazing Biz Life Academy which also made a VAST difference in me reaching and going for my dreams! Last year I took Susan B Moe’s Business in Blue Jeans webinar and it changed my life not to mention joining the best inspiration of my life Miss Stephanie St. Claire and her 7 Miracles along with Blissbomed which got me out of a victim mindset and into healing, success and life changes I never thought I could have!

Be Mindful. How do you be mindful? Well, most of all keep learning. You don’t have to be an eternal student racking up debt to be mindful either. With the internet at the tips of our fingers, there is SO much to be able to take part of free, and at some cost. Craftsy, You Tube, Udacity, and even just searching on Google will help you find what you need to learn, to grow, to read books, watch videos, etc. There is no reason why you aren’t learning what you need to know or desire to know. If you don’t have a computer, go to the library. You can use the computers there, or go to a resource center in your area as many of them have computers you can use for free as well. Ask a family member or a friend to let you use one or look online Craigslist or Ebay or such and find a used laptop or desktop and get what you need. Plus each area has some form of Community Classes or Adult Education that you take part in for free or minimal costs to learn and grow your mind. To have a beautiful mind you have to exercise it, challenge it, grow it and what I like to say ABL, Always Be Learning.

Take Care of You. On the outward appearance side of things your tasks are geared toward taking care of yourself. I don’t believe you have to be a certain weight or certain height or wear a certain set of clothes, etc to be Beautiful. I think it goes back to getting down to the core of things. Take care of yourself, eat right, get enough sleep, exercise to help your body be healthy as well as it does have some fit factors, take care of your teeth, your hair, your body and your clothes. If all those things are in good shape, then you are set. If not, take a personal assessment and make changes where you need to or want to. Not sure where to start? Think about a life coach or even search online for Personal Assessment or Health Assessment or something in that realm. If you want to change your clothes search for Updating my Wardrobe ideas. If you want to update your Hairstyle, look for those ideas. Again, there are SO many resources you can lean on. Even the most kempt together person needs a little improvement here or there. I recently did a health assessment and realized if I worked out more I would FEEL healthier and have more energy. I looked at my hairdo and decided I wanted something different so I searched for Redhead bangs and found some cute style so I can start the new year with a bang, with BETTIE BANGS! 🙂 I also am not afraid to ask. Ask others for hand me downs, ideas, or help. Get an Accountability Partner for you, your goals or even your business. Someone who has the same mindset as you and wants to have an Accountability Partner too will help you both. Meet once a week online, over the phone or in person if you can and hash over your goals and where you are each week. It will really make a difference.

Full Circle Fabulous. Bringing it all together. I am sure I could go on and there are other deeper things to add, but I think the essence is here. If you follow these things are start on your path, take some initiative to make the necessary changes in your life and to make your life better, then you will be on the road to your heart and mind to help yourself to be a complete package.

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

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Me and my new do!

 

Monday Manifesto: Brave Girls Club

Going for my dreams and goals hasn’t always been easy. But I will say for me it has always been worth it. There have been struggles and hard times in my life sure! Everyone has those. But sometimes we need that EXTRA added oopmh or push. Sometimes we need to let go, heal the hurt and pain and get thru it. Learn ways and techniques and connect with like minded tribe of others.

That is how I came upon Brave Girls Club. I discuss in my video here the beginning of my journey a few years back. (I need to do an updated video)

I have a variety of books and Manifestos all around that keep me on my path for my life and business.

 

My Pinterest Board for Brave Girl Love shows things I love that others have created that helps rejuvenate my mind.

Here are some other places where I have discussed my journey with Brave Girls Club 

and here is when I started getting back into fashion because of Brave Girls Club

Why do I share this with you? Why on a on a blog about my business? Because I desire for others to know as well that life is not always sunshine and roses. I want others to see that to have the drive and passion I do, I have overcome a lot and that character building is the reason why I am the person I am and do the things I do and reach for dreams and goals such as this business.

Sure I could just talk about aprons and accessories but there is more to me and my business than JUST those things.

My Brave Girl Manifestos surround me and words and snippets even are pasted in various places to keep me on the right path.

For me, running this business isn’t just about sewing and creating aprons and accessories, it is also having a brand people can look up to. Now I realize i may not be everyone’s cuppa tea, but that doesn’t stop me nor deter me. Find the manifestos that work for you to stay on your path and perhaps find your tribe to help the inner part of you match the outer core of what you sell  🙂

People, competitors, etc will try to bring you down, get in your way and try to sabotage you telling you horrible mean things and may even tell you you can’t do it or shouldn’t. The phrase I REALLY love we learned in BG…..

She Did it Anyway!

Don’t worry about the Naysayers and the Haters. I just got a bumper sticker that says My Haters are my Motivators because they are. Don’t let others drag you down.

 

Keep moving forward and Do it Anyway!

Hope you enjoyed today’s Monday Manifesto. Please share it with others, go check out Brave Girls Club and ALL the MANY things they have to offer. You might find a manifesto or mantra that works for you and YOUR business.

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

Fabulous Friday: Being Fabulous

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What does it mean to Be Fabulous?

A good friend recently pointed out to me, that perhaps people don’t know what Fabulous means, what does one do, how does one act, etc. So I thought I would take today to comment on that.

The Free Dictonary defines it this way

fab·u·lous  (fby-ls)

adj.

1. Barely credible; astonishing: the fabulous endurance of a marathon runner.
2. Extremely pleasing or successful: a fabulous vacation.
3.

a. Of the nature of a fable or myth; legendary.
b. Told of or celebrated in fables or legends.

[Middle English, mythical, from Old French fabuleux, from Latin fbulsus, from fbula, fable; see fable.]

fabu·lous·ly adv.
fabu·lous·ness n.
Ok now how many other of you saw that word Legendary and thought of Barney Stinson? Ok me too, so here ya go, I just had to
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1. Owning up to YOUR Fabulous
I feel that to Be Fabulous you need to have own up to your Fabulousness. You, who you are and how you are is ALREADY Fabulous! A phrase I learned from Stephanie St. Claire was “All things are already mine” I thought, “Snap, that is just like being Fabulous. There is nothing we have to do, or say or become, we already ARE Fabulous! just as we are!”
I don’t want to taut all these thing for who you have to be or how you are. You know who you are. Owning up to who you are, what type of person you are, what your body shape is or isn’t,  what your life is and so on. Anyone, ANY…ONE can be Fabulous.
2-Attitude of Fabulous
Which means-Deciding you ARE Fabulous and then own it. Barney never had anyone tell him he was Legendary, he decided he was and then acted in that manner. I decided I was Fabulous and act in a manner that says so that works for me. That is important because perhaps you are shy. It is not like you are going to start shouting from the rooftops (though I would) I am FABULOUS! Do what feels comfortable to own it, but if you get a chance to step outside of the shell, I think you will find new fabulousness waiting you never knew existed.
Most importantly, have a positive attitude, be grateful for your life and what you have, who you are, desire to be kind to another, and have dignity and integrity. Smile, be happy, compliment others, take compliments well, enjoy life, enjoy all things of life, good AND bad.  Be confident, go out once in awhile, clean up or do your makeup daily, even if you are not going out, a little mascara, blush and balm always help me feel fabulous. If you are not a makeup wearer, or perhaps a guy reading this, do whatever it takes to keep yourself clean and groomed. When I was very down because of a break up, once I crawled out from under the covers and at least brushed my hair and washed my face, I feel SO much better. Feeling good, makes you feel happy, when you are happy, others are happy, when others and you are happy you tend to start feeling fabulous.
3-Be Confident
This can get confused with arrogance, but I seem to notice that those who say I am arrogant are actually ones not confident with themselves. They have a deeper insecurity perhaps or they were raised not to be proud or boastful and think you are being outlandish. I say, GOOD! Be outlandish if you desire to be. You might have to test out that Fabulous Confidence a bit to find the right blend that works for you.
If you constantly feel out of your element in what you think acting and owning Fabulous means, maybe tone it down a notch or two. If you feel like you are not quite there, amp it up!  Be you, Be Fabulous You.
4-Learning Fabulous
There are books and I will give you a  few to read, with caution.
One of the first things I see a LOT of these books say I get a new wardrobe. Now, maybe you NEED a new wardrobe, but maybe you don’t. Most likely you just need a good friend or someone you trust or even a Fashion Advisor to help you leverage the items you already have and make your wardrobe better. That COULD be the case. But I don’t want you thinking that you need to rush out and buy a new wardrobe.
My sister loves flannel shirts. That is her. She is a flannel shirt girl. Would that work for me? No. But let me tell you, she rocks the flannel shirt and it works for her. Does she look amazing when she dresses up? Sure don’t we all, but that doesn’t mean she can’t rock that flannel shirt and still be fabulous because she can.
Understand rubberband?
Ok so here are some books…
Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It – Kimora Lee Simmons.
and my idol…
Style A to Zoe: The Art of Fashion, Beauty, & Everything Glamour Rachel Zoe.
5-Keep it Together
Ok so another rant. I feel most fabulous when my home and desk and life are clean and organized. I love wwwFlylady.com and how she helps others to get their life clean and ways to STAY Clean.  But I also know a few people who throw things on the floor and all about and if you clean it they have no clue where anything is. Being clean and organized is great and I think for me it makes a vast difference.
Again, try what works for you. Go to Fly Lady and test out her methods. They are very simple and I love how easy they integrate into other things in my life.  I now have these habits because of her (even if nothing else gets done)…
Always put my shoes on
Swish the toilet with a brush daily
Always keep my sink clean and shiny
and like I said I add one, groom myself daily
6- Love Yourself
If you don’t love you, who will? You are your own best friend and your own worst enemy. Don’t let the self talk be negative talk. Let it be positive, uplifting talk. No mean talk to yourself. Let go of your past and those who hurt you. Decide you are NOT a victim anymore.  You are Fabulous.
If you feel this is hard to do I have a suggestion for you. Read how I went from Fragile to Fabulous
There is SO much more to my story and if you really want to know, there is a whole blog for you to read at As Days Go By
The short version of that is I lost my father at  young age, I was molested, raped, beaten, bruised, divorce, lost custody of children, struggled, was homeless, lost businesses, sacrificed and lived a lot of my life feeling like I was a victim. If you have been through something, I probably have to or something like it. I look at those things in my life as experiences to help me to help you.
If I can smile and look life in the face of it all and Be Fabulous…YOU can too!
7-Be Friendly
If you are friendly to others, they will want to be your friend. Fabulous people attract friends because people are drawn to them. Say hi. Compliment others. Talk about similar likes and once in awhile dislikes (just don’t get hung up on the negative). Smile. Be inviting to things or groups you are in. If you see others standing alone, invite them in. If you are the one alone, and someone else invites you, go try it out. Be engaging and discuss things with them. To have a friend is to be a friend.
8-Have Fun
Laugh. Smile. Watch comedy shows if need be. Just enjoy life. don’t worry about what others think, just go do and be what you like to do to have fun. Ok, disclaimer…if you are a psychopath and like to kill others for fun please don’t do that. But if you want to swing on swings, do it (which btw is my like ultimate favorite thing to do in like always) . If you want to plank on the hot ground, do it. If you want to be silly, do it. If you want to crochet all day or knit or sew, do it. YOU know what you like to do for fun and what fun means to you. Do that and be that.
If you DON”T know what fun means, try some things out until you do.
I also have a De-Suckify List I learned from Leonie Dawson. I made a list of things to do when I feel life suck or I am not “in a good mood” On my list”
 
Watch a funny movie
Play Fun Music
Go outside
Take a shower
Create
Collage
Meditate
Breathe
9-Stay True to You
I am making some suggestions for things, but I want you to stay true to you as well. Don’t change just to change. Change, grow evolve because you desire to. Don’t EVER change for someone else or compromise your boundaries or values.  You know what you feel comfortable with and you generally know when you have crossed the line. If you do cross it and you don’t feel right, remember that you can ALWAYS walk away. If it doesn’t fit, feel right, or more uncomfortable than you can be, then try something else, walk way. Above all, be you.
10-Trixie Fabulousity
On this last note, I want to share how I go about Being and Feeling Fabulous. Some of you who know me personally already know some of these things and will sit there nodding your head saying to yourself “Yep, that Trixie!”
*I wake happy. If I am not happy, I get happy.
*Limit my time online (I actually set a timer)
*While online enjoy positive and uplifting things*Do what I want each day. Seriously. Some days I get up and want to work in my studio. Some days I want to lie around and watch movies. Now I realize that not everyone has the life I have, but even so, do what you want and enjoy it. IF you are not enjoying it, why are you doing it?
*I listen to uplifting music during the day.
*Take regular breaks
*Go to events
*Socialize with others
*Take Chances and Leaps for things I desire and goals I am reaching for
*Meet new people everywhere I go
*Say Hello Fabulous to others often
*Say Be Fabulous instead of saying goodbye
*Be VERY Happy and smile…ALOT
*Be energetic
*Be driven
*Be audacious and ostentatious (basically be “over the top”)
*Live vicariously thru myself
I quote what I said on FB
“I’m every man’s dream and every girls inspiration. I’m awesome in a FABULOUS package. I’m confident strong and determined. Success is my only option failures not. I live life vicariously thru myself. I enjoy the show. I protect my soul house fiercely. My boundary lines are unmovable. I’m Authentic Real Unique. I’m me.”
I close with what I said on my picture for today. I am not perfect. Hell, none of us are. But I own up to the me I am. I own up to my successes as well as my failures. I am no longer breakable. I am no longer a victim. I am me….and I am…

FABULOUS