Just Call Me a Quaintrelle: Female Dandy for short

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I would say I am a “Female Dandy”

In this article An Ode to That Rare Creature, the Female Dandy

http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/03/ode-to-that-rare-creature-the-female-dandy.html

the women exude a quality, a class, a style a way of living that is lived through passion, savoring of life,

the female dandy is its own archetype, known as the quaintrelle

The term comes from the wordquaint — a much more elegant coinage than its precursors, dandyessand dandizette.

As one online dictionary has it, a quaintrelle [Dandy] is

“a woman who emphasizes a life of passion expressed through personal style, leisurely pastimes, charm, and cultivation of life’s pleasures,”

and as the article states after quoting, shouldn’t that be all of us?

A further description later in the article gives another viewpoint..

“Her hands are gloved, she is helmeted, and inaccessible; a cold and disturbing beauty [through which] pierces a formidable being — this woman is free!”

Tamara De Lempicka

 

While most of this is true, I do not feel that all “Dandy” women are cold and inaccessible. However, I do feel as this statement says, the women like this do tend to have that “Je ne se quoi” 

An intangible quality that makes something distinctive or attractive

I think I attain some of that, however being in The Des Moines Women’s Club reminds me every Wednesday that I still have something to strive for an attain. There are so many women in the club that have this, finesse, about them. The carry themselves with such eloquence and I admire them so just I used to admire ladies from my church in years past. There was one lady Sister Kiester that had this formidable quality about her. She hosted fine dinners, her clothes were always impeccable, and her was perfectly coiffed. She was something to aspire to.

I recently have thought more about my wardrobe choices, style, demeanor and manner in which I present myself and wonder if others look at me that way or if they just see me as some silly girl playing dress up? Then there are shows like Advanced Style  who have this style and grace about them. 

I get shown this movie over and over. People always send it to me or tell me I remind them of these ladies. I am 45 this year and have my own style and am told I fit the description of  “people who live full creative lives. They live life to the fullest, age gracefully and continue to grow and challenge themselves.” As well, I believe Ari should check out The Des Moines Women’s Club with all the impeccable women who have that same sir and quality about them! I feel that style is relative and I desire to dress as I choose and have my own flair for dress as well as life.

I think Dietrich best described it summing up the allure of the quaintrelle:

Her attire isn’t meant to please others, only herself.

If you know me, you know one of my mantra’s is to always Be Yourself. Live your life for yourself. Do as you desire and happiness will follow. Wear what you desire to wear no matter how ostentatious it may be. If YOU love it, FEEL great in it, then that is all that matters.

I leave with you my Mantra

“When given the option of being fabulous, why would you choose anything else?”

Xoxo, Trisha Trixie

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Recipe for Fabulous : Be Beautiful, Inside and Out

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There   are many attractive   people out there,  but that doesn’t make them beautiful. I hear so many people say  they know someone who is gorgeous  on the outside but ugly on the inside.  To be truly fabulous ,  you must be both. Beautiful on the inside and out!

How do you do that?

Be Yourself. You do that by being yourself , for one. I like a quote I saw that said “Be yourself, everybody else is taken.” How true it is. Don’t worry about what others are saying or doing or wearing or being, don’t try to be them, just be you.

Love yourself. Fall in love with yourself. Every imperfection, every flaw, ever great thing and every mediocre thing. Realize you are not perfect and then accept those imperfections. Every thing that you are is WHO you are.  Be that person. down to the core.

Embrace your past. “You have to put your past behind you.” Isn’t that what the monkey said in Lion King? Whatever happened when you were younger, whatever someone said to you, or did to you, or treated you in the past, is just that…in the past. I don’t think we can truly “forget” it but see it for what it is…your character. All those things have made you who you are today. Embrace them. Welcome them into your heart. Those things in your past helped shape, you form you, build your character. I love my past. For every good, great and awful thing that happened.

Dig Deep. Dig deep down into your soul. Who are you? Are you a bitch? Are you an asshole? Are you sweet? Are you too trusting? ?Do you like who you are? Do you want to change who you are? When you dig deep, way down to the core, it can be very hard. I have done it and I had to take a good hard look at myself and  decide if I liked that person or not. The areas I didn’t like I then had to decide if I cared and if I wanted to change them or not. I truly believe when things are miserable enough, awful enough and you don’t like them enough, that’s when you change and grow. But just like an illness of alcoholism or other drugs, you have to see the problem and accept it before you can change and grow. You think comparing yourself to a drug is odd? Well, think about this…if you are allowing yourself to be toxic to yourself, it is a drug. If you are allowing others to be toxic to you, it is a drug. How so? Well, toxicity IS a DRUG. Some people FEED off it. They feed off the drama. They feed off the attention. They are addicted to their story. They are addicted to being a “victim” so much so, that they can’t see past it. They wonder “Why is my life always have problems?” or “Why does drama always happen to me or around me?” yet failing to see how they are thriving on it like they would a drug. You have to recognize it, then tackle the problem. Once you do then you can conquer those things and issues that are holding you back from becoming the best you that you can be. Digging deep and seeing yourself for who you REALLY are is hard. I won’t lie. It can really hurt your heart when you see how you have been acting or treating others or what toxicness you have allowed in your soul. But do not dwell on that. See it for what it is and then be determined to change it.

Set, Make, and Keep Boundaries. I have talked about this before. The very best thing you can do for yourself is to Set, Make and Keep boundaries for yourself. Set them by writing them down on a piece of paper or online. Make them by taking action on them. Keep them by not allowing other over the line of those boundaries. Past boyfriends, ex husbands or wives, family members or those really close to you are the hardest to keep those boundaries with. We think we need to allow them to keep treating us like dirt and you know what…YOU DON’T! Never allow anyone to diminish your shine!  Hold to your boundaries. Do not be like Bugs Bunny and Yosemite Same and keep saying “Do not cross this line” then let them cross the line and make a new line. Make your line, be firm, stick to it. At first it will suck. It will hurt. It will be hard. I am not gonna lie. But after a few more times and then those toxic people either leave because you’re not fun to play with anymore because they can’t hurt you because you won’t let them….or you see those people for who they REALLY are and you finally let go of them and their issues and drama. When you do, a huge weight will life and you will stand there in an air like a feather or happiness and you will say to yourself “Why did I let that go on for so long. I am SO much happier now” Just because to not swell on the fact that you let it go on. Do not beat yourself up about it. Embrace it, and when another comes around, hold to your boundary once again. It is the best way to love yourself and be true to yourself that will make your soul shine and your inner beauty really start shining through.

Be Determined. Be determined to be better. Be the best. Be Fabulous. The new road to getting past all that can take time. It can take some real hard soul searching. It can hurt to see what you have allowed in your life from others and possibly yourself. But there are ways to get through it. I did by taking Soul Restoration I and II from Brave Girls Club.. I am going to start next year in Soul School and reconnect with my own soul. SR really helped me reach deep and see the pain, hurt and heartache I was carrying around with me. Once I got past it and really opened up my soul to all the great things, I felt like a weight had been lifted from me and I was no longer carrying bricks of defeat around anymore. I took some other courses at the same time to help my business and reach for my dreams such as When I grow Up, Right Brain Business Plan and Amazing Biz Life Academy which also made a VAST difference in me reaching and going for my dreams! Last year I took Susan B Moe’s Business in Blue Jeans webinar and it changed my life not to mention joining the best inspiration of my life Miss Stephanie St. Claire and her 7 Miracles along with Blissbomed which got me out of a victim mindset and into healing, success and life changes I never thought I could have!

Be Mindful. How do you be mindful? Well, most of all keep learning. You don’t have to be an eternal student racking up debt to be mindful either. With the internet at the tips of our fingers, there is SO much to be able to take part of free, and at some cost. Craftsy, You Tube, Udacity, and even just searching on Google will help you find what you need to learn, to grow, to read books, watch videos, etc. There is no reason why you aren’t learning what you need to know or desire to know. If you don’t have a computer, go to the library. You can use the computers there, or go to a resource center in your area as many of them have computers you can use for free as well. Ask a family member or a friend to let you use one or look online Craigslist or Ebay or such and find a used laptop or desktop and get what you need. Plus each area has some form of Community Classes or Adult Education that you take part in for free or minimal costs to learn and grow your mind. To have a beautiful mind you have to exercise it, challenge it, grow it and what I like to say ABL, Always Be Learning.

Take Care of You. On the outward appearance side of things your tasks are geared toward taking care of yourself. I don’t believe you have to be a certain weight or certain height or wear a certain set of clothes, etc to be Beautiful. I think it goes back to getting down to the core of things. Take care of yourself, eat right, get enough sleep, exercise to help your body be healthy as well as it does have some fit factors, take care of your teeth, your hair, your body and your clothes. If all those things are in good shape, then you are set. If not, take a personal assessment and make changes where you need to or want to. Not sure where to start? Think about a life coach or even search online for Personal Assessment or Health Assessment or something in that realm. If you want to change your clothes search for Updating my Wardrobe ideas. If you want to update your Hairstyle, look for those ideas. Again, there are SO many resources you can lean on. Even the most kempt together person needs a little improvement here or there. I recently did a health assessment and realized if I worked out more I would FEEL healthier and have more energy. I looked at my hairdo and decided I wanted something different so I searched for Redhead bangs and found some cute style so I can start the new year with a bang, with BETTIE BANGS! 🙂 I also am not afraid to ask. Ask others for hand me downs, ideas, or help. Get an Accountability Partner for you, your goals or even your business. Someone who has the same mindset as you and wants to have an Accountability Partner too will help you both. Meet once a week online, over the phone or in person if you can and hash over your goals and where you are each week. It will really make a difference.

Full Circle Fabulous. Bringing it all together. I am sure I could go on and there are other deeper things to add, but I think the essence is here. If you follow these things are start on your path, take some initiative to make the necessary changes in your life and to make your life better, then you will be on the road to your heart and mind to help yourself to be a complete package.

Until next time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

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Me and my new do!

 

Trisha Trixie Tuesday! Bespoke (Custom-Made-to-Order-MadetoMeasure)

What’s “Bespoke”?

Bespoke is an adjective for anything commissioned to a particular specification. “Custom-made”, “made to order”, “made to measure” and sometimes “hand-made” are near-synonyms.

The word bespoke is derived from the verb to bespeak, to “speak for something”, in the specialized meaning “to give order for it to be made” or commission, first cited from 1583 by the OED, with the adjective in its alternative form “bespoken” first quoted from 1607 in this sense.[1] The term is generally more prevalent in British English than American English, which tends to use “custom” instead, as in custom car, custom motorcycle etc.

So, with the bespoke items available from Trisha Trixie, you can create a customized items JUST FOR YOU! How do you do that?

GO HERE! Pick out the colors and fabric and Trisha Trixie will do the rest!

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What do YOU think about being able to customize a product just for you? Do you like or dislike it?

WE WANNA KNOW!

Until next time,

Xoxo

What’s Happening Wednesday`

What ISN’T happening today?

 

I have in my line up

  • Shopping with sister (need to get more flowers for fascinators)
  • make two suit style male chef aprons
  • make 4 makeup capes aprons
  • make one specialty makeup apron
  • Record videos for Be Fabulous launching Friday
  • Work on Be Fabulous Worksheets and materials
  • Later go to movie screening for 48 Hour Film Project Des Moines to see how some of my Trisha Trixie items were used in the film
  • Maybe work on some new custom Tattoo Nylons and make a DIY video for it (it was a big hit on the blog and FB)
  • Somewhere in there eat, drink and be merry
  • Breathe

So for now, I am off this idiot box called a computer…Enjoy the day my lovelies!

Until next time,

XOXO Trisha Trixie

Trisha Trixie Two Hundreth Post: How I Got Here & Where Am I Going

Today is the day I hit 200 posts on this page! A few of you sent in replies about what you wanted me to write about and such and the biggest outcome of those was the questions of

“How did I get from here to there?” Meaning what brought me here, the journey, how am I doing, and where am I going from here. What do I plan to do going forward and the journey it took to get to this point. I did talk about this before for an IFB Challenge, but I wanted to elaborate for this post (Click here for previous post)

Let’s take a quick backtrack. I used to model a long long time ago in 1988 back in California.  It wasn’t much but it was fun and I really enjoyed it. Then in the late 90’s I worked in Iowa doing some short term modeling and  stints around town. In 2010 I had the chance to be in a Fashion Show and was featured as well in the Juice Magazine in Des Moines, Iowa. All of these little modeling stints pulled at me to get back into modeling. But the timing wasn’t right and I just didn’t want to do Commercial.

In 2009 I added another website to my list of others I was doing and tried my hand at a Fashion website where one could come into a community of others who were also interested in Fashion. In essence it was like a dating website but for Fashion. I talked to many people, I had a few on the site, and I even discussed this with StartUpCityDSM and others in Business and the field. It fell to the ground and I let it fall.

I went back to cubicle work to earn some money under my belt since I did not have anyone handing out dollar bills my way to fund my ideas and business like many other do. Here I was, in all my businesses, doing this by the sweat of my brow. Yet, I was still determined to keep up with my thoughts and ideas and go for what I loved to do.

In 2011, I ventured into doing Art. Just art, drawing, digital art, etc of the like. I didn’t really think I wanted to be an artist for the rest of my life full time but it was good for me to unleash that inner side of creativity out of me and honestly I needed to do it to heal after a life altering event that happened.

It was like it all hit me. I wanted to do what I LOVED to do. Model and Fashion. But not just anything. I wanted to go back to Vintage Modeling and creating Fashions for others.

So in 2012 with assistance from family and friends, I ventured into the world of working in a cubicle gaining money under my belt and living life like most people do I think. They have something they TRULY desire to do, yet allowed the humdrum part of like to weigh them down and not do what they loved. That was NOT ME and I was hating every minute of it. I did however meet some amazing new people and friends along the way and the cubicle life for a time reminded me why I am an Entrepreneur. Because I thrive off my OWN life and my OWN ideas.

It is really hard to live your dream when you are getting paid to help someone else live theirs. I do not like working for the man and watching my life pass by while I punched a time clock.

2013 came around and when that contract was over I jumped head first into a pool of uncertainty yet again and did everything I could to have the life I desired. I knew I wanted to fully be invested in my brand and what I was doing but I didn’t know how. Somehow I fell into the lap of knowledge about IFB Independent Fashion Bloggers and saw there was an even in February where there would be workshops and a chance to really learn and connect. I just knew deep down in my gut, that I had to go, this was it, this was my jumping off point.

I saved the money up to go and got assistance from those around me for extra funds to pay for it all. It was exactly what I wanted, needed and yearned for. I learned so much and met so many people. As I said earlier, I talk about it more here.

It changed my life. But the one thing that really changed the direction of success I made I feel is credited to Susan Baroncini-Moe who wrote Business in Blue Jeans. I won a session with her and in 30 minutes I felt I knew more of what I had to do that I had learned in the past year. Sometimes, things just hit you and people get put in your path for a reason. I like to listen when that happens.

At the time I was scattered, doing everything regarding fashion. The funny thing is that all I really wanted to do what Aprons and Accessories. She encouraged me to focus on my own Trademark, do what I love and don’t fight it. After doing some investigation I found out I would have to change my Trademark anyway because of my business name was connected to another business and since I own the rights to Trisha Trixie I claimed it.

I went through a re-branding and re- everything. Sadly at the time everyone jumped ship at the same time as well. Luckily I am not Kelly Coutrone, but at time I feel like it because I tend to have people come and go, but I guess perhaps that is the business.

Since March of 2013 when I made that vast change in my business, things have gone up , up an away from here. Sometimes it dearly is hard to remember to come down off my cloud and see things for how they are.

I have done well in sales. I have been through great learning processes and have made changes and adjustments along the way. Some for the good and some I have had to change again and again. Having your own business is quite the learning process. It is a trial and error and sometimes trial by fire times and moments.

I am still changing, growing and learning but I think things are going well.

I am currently a 7 Miracles a Month Group with Stephannie St. Claire and it it amazing and well worth it. A great group of people and a wonderful tribe that also encourages and inspires.

I write for my blog and for a few others here and there but mostly www.desmoinesisnotboring.com. 

I have done a few guests posts on various sites.

I have items in local shops and online.

I sell at Tradeshows and Craft Fairs as well.

The fall in 2013 is looking to be a great one.

I will be going back to New York for NYFW, New York Fashion Week as a gift from IFB that I won when I was there last. I am taking my man who has never been there and we plan on going to a few Fashion Shows. Who knows, maybe I will get recognized by what I am wearing and might meet some people who will help me along the way. It also could just be a great trip with my man. I am open for anything.

I have my SECOND Fashion Show for the year planned. The first was a mini show for a Residential Facility. It was light and fun. The second is my main event and I am planning, creating, doing everything I can to make this a Fabulous Event. Omaha Fashion Week told me when I applied for them this year, that they felt Aprons would NOT translate on the runway. I am out to prove them wrong. So far, I have done well in that quest.

This fall I will also be doing a variety of other Craft Shows, Fairs etc to get my brand out there and sell. I plan on hosting a few events on my own and seeing how that goes.

I have started a new side of my business to inspire and encourage others as well as doing what I love to do. To me, they go hand i hand. Be Fabulous Campaign is a part of who I am and who this business is. I think others need to see and learn to be the real authentic selves and their passions will help them be fruitful i their life like mine has.

I am creating a Fabulous Fall and am ready to wait and see what the rest of 2013 turns out to be and will re asses this plan of action for 2014.

I am thinking of adding some Home Baked Goodness  in with my aprons and maybe some other items and changing things up a bit. Maybe gift baskets with an Apron, a Treat, a Potholder to match the apron and a wooden spoon. I don’t want to be a bakery and take orders. I just want to bake what I love and share it with others. It is a means to bring to life the Old Fashioned Goodies like Grandma used to make. Simple, Sweet, Delicious. The thought concept is “Yes, there are still women who like to be in the kitchen” 🙂

Who knows what the future holds, but I do know this:

  • I am enjoying my life.
  • It might be hard at times but it is worth it
  • I love what I do and I have a fire and passion for it that I think others feel and see.
  • I love this life and will keep on keeping on.
  • When I wrote about this back in March these were the Goals I had back then. I wanted to bring them back up and share and show you were I am now in relation to these goals and dreams:

My Future Desires:

  • I hope to accomplish a full line of Aprons and show at Omaha Fashion Week and one day soon at New York Fashion Week.
    OFW turned me down but I have had one mini Fashion Show already and planning the main one for October 13, 2013
  • I hope to be able to sell in a boutique or store for at least the next 6 months to a year.
    My items can now be found in three local boutiques and online in two places
  • I hope to have my own boutique in the next two years
    The quest for my own boutique is out there, but I am waiting until after my Fashion Show to see the reaction from my town and how my sales are at that time
  • I hope to be known as a name in the PinUp industry for TrishaTrixie and for my modeling uniqueness and my amazing fashions
    I was in a local magazine and on a Local Morning TV Show which helped others to recognize me more. I do hear from time time time “Aren’t you….and it warms and delights my heart to hear so
  • I hope to be published in online and offline magazines and hopefully some widely known ones
    I was featured in one local mag and might possibly be featured in a regular online mag
  • I hope to be a speaker at a variety of events in my town and in other places about these accomplishments
    I have yet to be a speaker but the year isn’t over yet
  • I hope to one day be one of the speakers at IFBCON within the next two years if not sooner (wink and smile)
    Perhaps the grander I get and the more success I can show by doing what I love will help IFB see an interest in me. This goal is still very much alive in me
  • I hope TrishaTrixie  to be names people hear and learn to love!  I am working on it, but it is starting to happen!

The final thing I want to say is for other to be themselves. Enjoy life. Go for their goals. Live out their dreams. Do what works for them.  But if it is not working for them, see how others are doing it. Talk to advisers and gurus or those you admire and find out how they do it. Expect Miracles.

The most joy I have ever had in life was reaching, yearning and going for my goals and dreams.

It may not always be easy.

But it is always worth it.

Until Next Time,

Xoxo Trisha Trixie

Happy 200th Post!!

Fabulous Friday: Being Fabulous

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What does it mean to Be Fabulous?

A good friend recently pointed out to me, that perhaps people don’t know what Fabulous means, what does one do, how does one act, etc. So I thought I would take today to comment on that.

The Free Dictonary defines it this way

fab·u·lous  (fby-ls)

adj.

1. Barely credible; astonishing: the fabulous endurance of a marathon runner.
2. Extremely pleasing or successful: a fabulous vacation.
3.

a. Of the nature of a fable or myth; legendary.
b. Told of or celebrated in fables or legends.

[Middle English, mythical, from Old French fabuleux, from Latin fbulsus, from fbula, fable; see fable.]

fabu·lous·ly adv.
fabu·lous·ness n.
Ok now how many other of you saw that word Legendary and thought of Barney Stinson? Ok me too, so here ya go, I just had to
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1. Owning up to YOUR Fabulous
I feel that to Be Fabulous you need to have own up to your Fabulousness. You, who you are and how you are is ALREADY Fabulous! A phrase I learned from Stephanie St. Claire was “All things are already mine” I thought, “Snap, that is just like being Fabulous. There is nothing we have to do, or say or become, we already ARE Fabulous! just as we are!”
I don’t want to taut all these thing for who you have to be or how you are. You know who you are. Owning up to who you are, what type of person you are, what your body shape is or isn’t,  what your life is and so on. Anyone, ANY…ONE can be Fabulous.
2-Attitude of Fabulous
Which means-Deciding you ARE Fabulous and then own it. Barney never had anyone tell him he was Legendary, he decided he was and then acted in that manner. I decided I was Fabulous and act in a manner that says so that works for me. That is important because perhaps you are shy. It is not like you are going to start shouting from the rooftops (though I would) I am FABULOUS! Do what feels comfortable to own it, but if you get a chance to step outside of the shell, I think you will find new fabulousness waiting you never knew existed.
Most importantly, have a positive attitude, be grateful for your life and what you have, who you are, desire to be kind to another, and have dignity and integrity. Smile, be happy, compliment others, take compliments well, enjoy life, enjoy all things of life, good AND bad.  Be confident, go out once in awhile, clean up or do your makeup daily, even if you are not going out, a little mascara, blush and balm always help me feel fabulous. If you are not a makeup wearer, or perhaps a guy reading this, do whatever it takes to keep yourself clean and groomed. When I was very down because of a break up, once I crawled out from under the covers and at least brushed my hair and washed my face, I feel SO much better. Feeling good, makes you feel happy, when you are happy, others are happy, when others and you are happy you tend to start feeling fabulous.
3-Be Confident
This can get confused with arrogance, but I seem to notice that those who say I am arrogant are actually ones not confident with themselves. They have a deeper insecurity perhaps or they were raised not to be proud or boastful and think you are being outlandish. I say, GOOD! Be outlandish if you desire to be. You might have to test out that Fabulous Confidence a bit to find the right blend that works for you.
If you constantly feel out of your element in what you think acting and owning Fabulous means, maybe tone it down a notch or two. If you feel like you are not quite there, amp it up!  Be you, Be Fabulous You.
4-Learning Fabulous
There are books and I will give you a  few to read, with caution.
One of the first things I see a LOT of these books say I get a new wardrobe. Now, maybe you NEED a new wardrobe, but maybe you don’t. Most likely you just need a good friend or someone you trust or even a Fashion Advisor to help you leverage the items you already have and make your wardrobe better. That COULD be the case. But I don’t want you thinking that you need to rush out and buy a new wardrobe.
My sister loves flannel shirts. That is her. She is a flannel shirt girl. Would that work for me? No. But let me tell you, she rocks the flannel shirt and it works for her. Does she look amazing when she dresses up? Sure don’t we all, but that doesn’t mean she can’t rock that flannel shirt and still be fabulous because she can.
Understand rubberband?
Ok so here are some books…
Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It – Kimora Lee Simmons.
and my idol…
Style A to Zoe: The Art of Fashion, Beauty, & Everything Glamour Rachel Zoe.
5-Keep it Together
Ok so another rant. I feel most fabulous when my home and desk and life are clean and organized. I love wwwFlylady.com and how she helps others to get their life clean and ways to STAY Clean.  But I also know a few people who throw things on the floor and all about and if you clean it they have no clue where anything is. Being clean and organized is great and I think for me it makes a vast difference.
Again, try what works for you. Go to Fly Lady and test out her methods. They are very simple and I love how easy they integrate into other things in my life.  I now have these habits because of her (even if nothing else gets done)…
Always put my shoes on
Swish the toilet with a brush daily
Always keep my sink clean and shiny
and like I said I add one, groom myself daily
6- Love Yourself
If you don’t love you, who will? You are your own best friend and your own worst enemy. Don’t let the self talk be negative talk. Let it be positive, uplifting talk. No mean talk to yourself. Let go of your past and those who hurt you. Decide you are NOT a victim anymore.  You are Fabulous.
If you feel this is hard to do I have a suggestion for you. Read how I went from Fragile to Fabulous
There is SO much more to my story and if you really want to know, there is a whole blog for you to read at As Days Go By
The short version of that is I lost my father at  young age, I was molested, raped, beaten, bruised, divorce, lost custody of children, struggled, was homeless, lost businesses, sacrificed and lived a lot of my life feeling like I was a victim. If you have been through something, I probably have to or something like it. I look at those things in my life as experiences to help me to help you.
If I can smile and look life in the face of it all and Be Fabulous…YOU can too!
7-Be Friendly
If you are friendly to others, they will want to be your friend. Fabulous people attract friends because people are drawn to them. Say hi. Compliment others. Talk about similar likes and once in awhile dislikes (just don’t get hung up on the negative). Smile. Be inviting to things or groups you are in. If you see others standing alone, invite them in. If you are the one alone, and someone else invites you, go try it out. Be engaging and discuss things with them. To have a friend is to be a friend.
8-Have Fun
Laugh. Smile. Watch comedy shows if need be. Just enjoy life. don’t worry about what others think, just go do and be what you like to do to have fun. Ok, disclaimer…if you are a psychopath and like to kill others for fun please don’t do that. But if you want to swing on swings, do it (which btw is my like ultimate favorite thing to do in like always) . If you want to plank on the hot ground, do it. If you want to be silly, do it. If you want to crochet all day or knit or sew, do it. YOU know what you like to do for fun and what fun means to you. Do that and be that.
If you DON”T know what fun means, try some things out until you do.
I also have a De-Suckify List I learned from Leonie Dawson. I made a list of things to do when I feel life suck or I am not “in a good mood” On my list”
 
Watch a funny movie
Play Fun Music
Go outside
Take a shower
Create
Collage
Meditate
Breathe
9-Stay True to You
I am making some suggestions for things, but I want you to stay true to you as well. Don’t change just to change. Change, grow evolve because you desire to. Don’t EVER change for someone else or compromise your boundaries or values.  You know what you feel comfortable with and you generally know when you have crossed the line. If you do cross it and you don’t feel right, remember that you can ALWAYS walk away. If it doesn’t fit, feel right, or more uncomfortable than you can be, then try something else, walk way. Above all, be you.
10-Trixie Fabulousity
On this last note, I want to share how I go about Being and Feeling Fabulous. Some of you who know me personally already know some of these things and will sit there nodding your head saying to yourself “Yep, that Trixie!”
*I wake happy. If I am not happy, I get happy.
*Limit my time online (I actually set a timer)
*While online enjoy positive and uplifting things*Do what I want each day. Seriously. Some days I get up and want to work in my studio. Some days I want to lie around and watch movies. Now I realize that not everyone has the life I have, but even so, do what you want and enjoy it. IF you are not enjoying it, why are you doing it?
*I listen to uplifting music during the day.
*Take regular breaks
*Go to events
*Socialize with others
*Take Chances and Leaps for things I desire and goals I am reaching for
*Meet new people everywhere I go
*Say Hello Fabulous to others often
*Say Be Fabulous instead of saying goodbye
*Be VERY Happy and smile…ALOT
*Be energetic
*Be driven
*Be audacious and ostentatious (basically be “over the top”)
*Live vicariously thru myself
I quote what I said on FB
“I’m every man’s dream and every girls inspiration. I’m awesome in a FABULOUS package. I’m confident strong and determined. Success is my only option failures not. I live life vicariously thru myself. I enjoy the show. I protect my soul house fiercely. My boundary lines are unmovable. I’m Authentic Real Unique. I’m me.”
I close with what I said on my picture for today. I am not perfect. Hell, none of us are. But I own up to the me I am. I own up to my successes as well as my failures. I am no longer breakable. I am no longer a victim. I am me….and I am…

FABULOUS

Fabulous Friday: SteamPunk Fabulous

Fabulous is calling

This whole weekend Trisha Trixie will be over at Chamber of Champions for a fun filled Grand Opening.

I have really jumped in and invested time, energy, effort, love and compassion for this place and people. They are a tribe of their own and they not only accepted me, but knighted me as an Ambassador for them(we all know it’s cuz I’m so FABULOUS)

I love the alter side of life in SteamPunk. I would love to create some aprons and more accessories for that genre. It is in the works but a bit down the road.

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Stop on by , say hi, come see all the FABULOUS things going on this weekend.

TIME TO BE FABULOUS!!!

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My theme song–> SO FABULOUS

 

BE FABULOUS MY LOVELIES!!! MUAH!! Kiss kiss

 

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