Just Where Did “Black Friday” come from? TT Friday Special

Hey all my fabulous fashionistas!  Today is a great day for businesses.  BLACK FRIDAY!

Big or small, doors were open for retail business this morning.  Some as early as yesterday afternoon.  :OUCH:  The good part about online selling is that you have a chance to shop from the comfort of your home without fighting the crush of the busy Black Friday shoppers.  Want to shop right now?  Go Visit Trisha Trixie’s website for some truly awesome deals.

But I got all distracted.  Where did “Black Friday” come from?  Did you know that it has been around for quite some time…just not called “Black Friday” right away.

From www.blackfriday.com:

“The term “Black Friday” was coined in the 1960s to mark the kickoff to the Christmas shopping season. “Black” refers to stores moving from the “red” to the “black,” back when accounting records were kept by hand, and red ink indicated a loss, and black a profit. Ever since the start of the modern Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade in 1924, the Friday after Thanksgiving has been known as the unofficial start to a bustling holiday shopping season.

In the 1960’s, police in Philadelphia griped about the congested streets, clogged with motorists and pedestrians, calling it “Black Friday.” In a non-retail sense, it also describes a financial crisis of 1869: a stock market catastrophe set off by gold spectators who tried and failed to corner the gold market, causing the market to collapse and stocks to plummet.”

So, way back in 1924…the Friday after the first Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade…people began thronging to the stores in hope of getting a great deal on something either they wanted/needed or someone else wanted/needed.

Since then, the furor has grown, and through thick and thin, Black Friday has stood the test of time.

Until recently.

More and more over the last few years, Black Friday has become less spectacular in the eyes of many, myself included. Stores are rushing the season…starting mention of Black Friday at the beginning of November.  Even so much as taking over THANKSGIVING in their rush to making the almighty dollar!  What the heck?

I have always been of the opinion that Thanksgiving should be left as a day of rest, peace and enjoying family.  Not all service industries have the day off…imagine if Nurses, Doctors, Pharmacists, Police Officers and Firefighters took the day off?  Uh, yeah…not gonna happen.  I have never counted the Whipped Cream as a MUST HAVE…if I didn’t remember it until Thanksgiving Day.  You just went without.  Apparently, I am in the minority though…because most (not all, thank goodness!) Grocery Stores and Retail Shops are open on Thanksgiving at some point.  Sad, really…

A good portion of many people’s shopping nowadays is done online.  I can get fully behind shopping online…until Aunt Penny (fictitious name, of course), decides that you are still 18 and not 38…and sends you clothing way too small, inappropriate for you or…let’s face it, just isn’t for you.  Thankfully, if you contact retailers online and explain the problem, some will work with you…though most likely you will have to send back said item.  Which is okay…if you cannot really see the purpose of having a Barney 2T sweatshirt in your life…and need to get rid of it ASAP.

Usually, I just regift…or donate said item to the church.  If your aunt asks how you like it…”Oh, Aunt Penny…it was just way too small…so I gifted it to a kiddo that can use it.”  This will make you look good to Aunt Penny AND you really have likely helped out a kiddo in need.

Until next time, my beauties…In whatever you say or do, stay true to you.

Sandra Bee

Memorial Monday Menu

I would hope you a ll know by now, I love to bake, cook, be in the kitchen, be a hostess and have parties. I am a sucker for holidays, manufactured ones too.   At this point I don’t even care if I “know” people are coming over or not. I have decided in my 40’s now that I am going to cook for me and my man and if people want to stop by I invite the misfits, the exiles and any and all who want to come and if they show up GREAT if not, “oh well”.   So this weekend my menu I decided I wanted to do consisted of things “I” wanted to make and create.

I bought a new grill (and put it together all by myself thank you oh and I tested out the grill Friday night and I even got it started all by myself nyah!)

Menu:   Frog Eyed Salad http://allrecipes.com/recipe/frog-eyed-salad/

Potato Salad made with Sour Cream instead of Mayhttp://www.inspiredtaste.net/22809/simple-potato-salad-recipe/

My man doesnt like Mayo so I used this alternative instead. Very yummy)

Premade Buffalo Wings from Fareway (Appetizers)

Premade Shrimp Bites (Schwans)

 

Chips and Salsa:  Target Peach Pineapple Salsa and a tad Queso. Yummm

Trixie’s World Famous Devilish Eggs : (Make like a normal Recipe, but add a hint of special vanilla. I use Tahitian or Madagascar) PS Also made with Sour Cream. No Mayo

Burgers :  I add Tastefully Simple”s “Everyday Grillin Seasonin, then flatten out. Add a touch of Big Daddy’s BBQ sauce then grill over coals (get yours from my pal Kara)

Brats:  For my man. I am not a Brat person but he likes them

Chicken Breast: Fareway had some great deals so I figured I would toss those on the grill too

Pasta Salad:  Rotini Pasta, cook al dente, add pesto or italian dressing. I like this simple recipe. You can also add ranch http://allrecipes.com/recipe/simple-pasta-salad/ I also mixed my own version of this Italian Dressing Recipe up http://allrecipes.com/recipe/italian-dressing-mix/

Rhubarb Pie: HOMEMADE WITH FRESH RHUBARB…need I say more??? This week I remember I had a TON of Rhubarb in my backyard so I cut that all up and froze some and saved some out to make a pie for today.

Then for the finale of flavors I made Sweet Chai Tea: Black Tea, Roobis, Cinnamon, Cadramom, Ginger, Cloves, Black Pepper, touch of nutmeg. Steep loose teas and flavors together for 10 minutes or more. Make enough pots to make a BIG pitcher. Cool in fridge or add ice to glass and enjoy. For a creamy version adda hint of milk or cream. And I saw this Recipe for Strawberry Syrup to make Sodas so I made my version but did it with

Rhubarb Syrup for Rhubarb Soda. Very yummy. Try it out! mmmm http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Strawberry-Soda-Syrup/Detail.aspx?src=VD_Summary

Of course, I got one last thing (and we just had to try it out ahead of time… SMORES

No matter what your plans, grillin, hangin, chillin, going to memorial services, or whatever… take at least SOME time and remember WHAT this weekend is for… To remember thoe we lost in the wars they served  

 

Until next time,

XoXo Trisha Trixie

Throwback Thursday: Interesting Nature Facts

Dragonflies

Dragonflies fly up to 20 miles per hour!  They also hover and fly backwards.  They are great for gardening, as they devour insects.

Shade Trees

Planting two to three shade trees in your yard can save you $100 to $250 a year in energy costs.

Onion

Ancient Egyptian laborers ate onions to give them strength while building the pyramids.  Onions were used, in the past, to treat infertility, impotence, headaches, hair loss and muscle aches.  Perhaps, we should be eating more onions?

 

Crickets

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Did you know that you can tell the temperature outside based on the sound of the cricket?  Really!  I learned this from my grandmother.  Count the number of chirps in 15 seconds and add that number to 37.  This will be the approximate temperature in degrees Fahrenheit.

 

Night Blooming Plants

My grandmother bought a night blooming plant this year.  I wondered what the real purpose of these plants was.  Not only are they beautiful, but the attract night flying pollinators.  This helps your plants to grow stronger!

What are some fun nature facts that you know?  Please comment on the site, we’d love to hear them.

Flylady Friday: Baby Steps

So, this weeks challenge was to clean the bathroom and a guest room(the one where you throw all your clutter)

First things first, you really need to sign up for the flylady emails.  Daily tips and tricks are going to fly your way.  I only took the time to read the emails written by Kelly.  Those from her viewers are about how well the program and products she offers (the purple rags and drain clogger are sure to be mine soon) work may be more beneficial as I continue to work the program.  However, my focus is just to do what I can and try not to whine.  Flylady says that saying, “I don’t have the time,” is the same as whining and we must get rid of this “stink in’ thinkin'”  So, I take the time to read the “flight plan” emails.

On Mondays, FlyLady offers a weekly plan;

This week we are in the bathroom and another room. The other room will be our Guest Room/ area! This means whatever room that you have that is your dumping ground. For most people it would be the guest room/area.

Bathroom:

Clear off the Hotspots that have gathered on the back of the tub and the
bathroom sink tops.

Guest/Extra Room

Grab a bag and do a 27 fling boogie of things to throw away. The things that
are obvious trash. We are not doing anything other than getting rid of things
to toss. Set your timer for 15 minutes and do as many 27 flings as you can!
Have fun with these missions!

 

 

I couldn’t do all of her flight plan tips, but I tried a few.  But, I do have clutter.

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1. I took 15 minutes and through away product, cleaning supplies and empty bottles.  I was amazed that I filled a garbage sack.  So heavy the man had to take it out!

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2. Then, I was inspired to reorganize.  My boyfriend said, “Everything is put away and not on the counters, but I can find it.”  That made me smile.

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3.  I then cleaned all the back spots of my tub, sink and toilet.  Not in the same day and I did it in 15 minute increments.  I mean who doesn’t have 15 minutes?

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Impressively, It has stayed fairly clean.  🙂

So, the guest room.  In my house, we call it the dog room.  It is the room where we throw everything.  The man keeps his clothes there and dirty stuff and junk piles up.  I’m sorry it is the room I keep the door closed on for a reason.  I wasn’t willing to take pictures during the process, but in 15 minute increments I did get it clean!

1. I went in and picked up the garbage.

2.  I picked up anything that should have a home in another place in the house.  Yes, including the laundry.  I even washed several loads of his clothes!  (I think the boy might like my new Flylady trial!)

3. I wiped furniture down, swept and made the bed.  All in just 15 minute increments throughout the week.

With little tricks and trips throughout the week I was able to make a big difference.

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And look I added a hamper to room to help us maintain organization!

My cousin asked to come stay this weekend and I didn’t have to turn him down, because I was embarrassed of the space.  But as you can see, he will have to share the dog room!

For next week I am going to try to maintain a morning and evening routine.  There are a few things I can’t complete such as making the bed every morning or unloading the dishwasher as my man sleeps much later than I do.  He might be agitated if I make the bed with him in it!  But I think a routine will benefit me.

Fly on ladies and have a great week!

Wednesday What Not: Birthday Traditions

We are celebrating the birthday week of TrishaTrixie.

I thought it would be fun to reflect on some birthday traditions.

Cake

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There are many theories as to why we have the birthday cake!

  • The greeks were thought to take cakes to the gods at the beginning of a full moon and a birthday represents one full moon!
  • In Germany, it was a tradition to make bread in the shape of the baby Jesus’s swaddling clothes.

But why do they put candles on the cake?

  • Again, this looks at ancient Greek times.  When the cakes were brought to the God’s they were lit with candles to look like the moon.
  • The German’s were the first to use small candles on their cakes, as they were good candle makers.
  • Candles were used in the center of cakes to represent the “light of life”
  • Some cultures believed that the smoke from the candles would send your wishes up to heaven.

The Birthday Party

A party is usually had so that treats can be shared and presents can be given.  However, this was not always the case.

  • The earliest parties were planned because people thought that evil spirits would visit them on their birthdays.  Friends and family stuck close so they could keep the spirits away.
  • Later, they became traditions where people would come together and celebrate the life of the person having a birthday.

Birthday Luck

A good luck birthstone, good luck flower and good luck color have been assigned to each month of the year.

Wrapping Gifts

A tradition that we hold is the custom of wrapping gifts.

Check out this video on how to wrap a perfect gift.

Saturday Special: Last Minute Ideas for Mother’s Day

Procrastination?  Yes, we have all been there and help is on the way.  

Hallmark has an amazing new product that you can do with the little ones called magic prints.  The products range from $9.95 to $24.95.  They are sure to melt any mother’s or grandmother’s heart.

Just Like You Magnet  Girl Double Frame with Sentiment

Of course TrishaTrixie designs has lovely jewelry designed for the fashionista in mom.  The products range from $10.00 to $20.00.

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Better Homes and Gardens has some great DIY projects for the kids to complete.  My personal favorite is the pen/pencil holder.  Who else is always looking for a pen?

Mother's Day Pencil Holder and Frame

Does your mom like to bake, craft, garden or just look gorgeous?  Check out these fun, vintage inspired aprons!

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Martha Stewart might not be the perfect ideal housewife anymore, but she has some great ideas!  Why not make mom a nice meal for Mother’s day?  This heart-shaped egg toast is sure to get a smile out of mom!

Heart-Shaped Egg in the Hole

What woman doesn’t love shoes?  There are so many various possibilities.  Does mom like comfy, flat or a nice heel?  Why not spoil her and shop now!

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Is mom eco-friendly?  Does she do what she can to save the world?  Then check out these repurposed items for mom.  The photo cubes would be so cute on a desk!

Photo: Tara Dennis

Does mom like scarfs to brighten up her outfit?  The choices are unlimited and usually reasonable in this category.  Shop for mom!

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We hope we were able to provide you with some last minute ideas.  At TrishaTrixie designs we would like to stop and thank all of the women in the world who take time to care for our future.  We are all blessed to have you as a part of our community!

FlyLady Fridays: Getting started on the declutter

How many times do you open a closet, a drawer or a back room and say, “I need to reorganize?”  Well, it happens to me almost daily  

I’ve had girlfriends ask me for help, because they think I must be organized because my house looks neat and put together, but I don’t let them into the closets!  

Does your junk drawer look like this?  

I’m going to begin to try to fix these messes in my home and the first suggestion from the FlyLady is to join her email.  So, I’d recommend that you do the same.  I’m going to read the newsletters and continue to highlight suggestions on how to implement some “baby steps” to organize myself.

To begin with I thought it would be good to start with the

FlyLady’s 11 Commandments 

1. Keep your sink shiny and clean

2. Get dressed every morning, even if you don’t feel like it. Don’t forget your lace-up shoes.  Don’t forget your Trishatrixie designs!

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3. Do your morning and before-bedtime routine everyday.

4. Don’t allow yourself to be sidetracked by the computer.

5. Pick up after yourself. If you get it out, put it away.

(So you don’t end up looking overwhelmed)

6. Don’t try to do two projects at once. ONE JOB AT A TIME.

7. Don’t pull out more than you can put back in one hour.

8. Do something for yourself everyday, maybe every morning and night.
9. Work as fast as you can to get the job done. This will give you more time to play later.
10.  Smile even when you don’t feel like it. It is contagious. Make your mind up to be happy, and you will be.
11. Don’t forget to laugh everyday. Pamper yourself; you deserve it!
Check back for more helpful hints. I’ll include my trials and you might even get to see my messy closet!  Have a great weekend.

Throwback Thursday: Vintage Mother

I want to share a simple but wonderful little image I received today from Vintage Digital Stamps. I thought I would share some of these Vintage Mother Items with you and give you the links in case you want to make a Vintage Inspired Mother’s Day card, she has all the items you could download to create something special for your Mother, Mommy, or Mommie! 🙂

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Here are also some letters she gives you as well as some other places to edit, create a collage and use these items along with some other fonts to make a great card for your mom

Click on these links to find the images used today to create your own Vintage Card for this holiday or any others that you might desire.

Vintage Mother 1

Vintage Mother 2

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Elephant Mother

Mother and Child

Vintage Photo of Mom and Child

Vintage Letters

PicMonkey Edit a Photo or Collage

Kewl Mom ideas from Pic Monkey

DaFont : Great tool for downloading and adding fonts (for the more techy minded person)

My Fonts: Add Fonts (for techies)

Font Squirrel

I think that should be a good start at least to create some super cute Vintage Retro Throwback looking Mother’s Day Cards. If you use any of these, Tag me on FAcebook or Comment below and send me the link. I would love to see what you come up with!

Until Next Time,

XoXo~Trisha Trixie

Wednesday What not: The vintage mother

So with the wold of Mad Men blowing across our nation, what man doesn’t want his own Betty?

I’d love to be able to stay home and participate in the activities of the 1950s, but what did a stay at home mother really do?

Top Ten in the life of a 1950s mother

10. Taking care of the home.

9. Grocery Shopping

8. Crafting

7. Sewing

6. Baking

5. Socializing with friends

4. Volunteering through social clubs

3.  Taking care of children

2 Making sure the house stayed together.

1.  Staying beautiful for her husband!

What do you do that reminds you of the vintage mother?  Funny thing at my house we have a dishwasher, however I’d rather wash the dishes by hand.  Something about it just calms my nerves.

Also, I love to put on a little apron and imagine myself back in time.  Didn’t things seem so much simpler?

Perhaps, your mother deserves to feel like a goddess in her home while crafting, baking, sewing or whatever her heart desires.  Don’t forget that trishatrixie designs has a huge selection of aprons and apron accessories.

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Green and Gorgeous Half Apron

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Half Apron

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Sunday Recipe: Bacon Wrapped Meatloaf

Bacon Wrapped Meatloaf

This was a yummy dish that is easy to prep and is sure to please!

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Attire Suggestions

This is a simple dish, so why not look extravagant putting it together?  TrishaTrixie designs has some custom items sure to inspire.  Don’t you love the Tiffany Blue?

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The earrings and apron are available for purchase in our shop.  Now that you are ready, let us get to cooking.

Ingredients

  1. 1 1/2 pounds of ground beef or turkey
  2. 2 eggs
  3. 1/4 cup of lemon juice
  4. 1 cup of water
  5. 1 cup of bread crumbs
  6. 1 small onion chopped
  7. One green pepper chopped
  8. 1 cup of grated cheddar cheese
  9. 1 Teaspoon of salt
  10. 5 strips of bacon

 

Directions

  1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees
  2. Mix all ingredients(except bacon) in a large bowl
  3. Form 5 small loves
  4. Place the loves on a pan with a slight lip (Juices will run out)
  5. Take strips of bacon and rip them into two pieces
  6. Make an x over the top of the loaf with the bacon and tuck the ends of the bacon under the loaves.
  7. Cook for 50 minutes
  8. Serve a yummy dish!

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Saturday (Evening) Special-Vintage Sewing Books

I love Vintage sewing books such as these. There not only is something wonderful to me about the smell of old books, but looking at these brings backs moment of when my Grandma Hunter was trying so hard to teach me the basics. I also love the style of these books and how they teach us. There is no fancy DVD or CD with some tutorial on it. All they had was words. Words and images in and on a book to tell us everything we needed to know about how to sew. I got one of the books at a Thrift store and the other one I happened upon when I was at Domestica in East Village in Des Moines.

If you get a chance to grab one of these types books, do yourself a favor and get it. It is well worth it and you won’t regret it.

Now, I am going off to my rocking chair and ottoman and gonna put my feet up and devour into these tonight and get off this new version of a Idiot box- the computer. 🙂

XoXo~Trisha Trixie

Wednesday What Not: Golf Fashion and May Day Maddness

May Day Madness

So, we have all gotten the little cups with popcorn and M&Ms dropped at our door.  But we wanted to look for a more adult twist on this idea.  Through 504 Main, we located many gifts in a jar.  A featured item was a miniature golf date in a jar!

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I love this idea and I think you could really add your own spin to this gift giving idea.  Who might be deserving of such a May Day gift?

 

Golf Fashion Through the Years.

Golf has always been the place to be fashionable for women.  Having the right shoe and ensemble is just as important as how you play the game.

1894

The basic ensemble of the 1890s was a simple blouse and a long skirt about 3 inches off of the ground.  This sleeves often made a full swing difficult and the golf club often got caught up in the skirt.  Can you imagine?

The Twentieth Century

Women began to prefer the jacket, skirt, and blouse ensemble.  However, around 1909 the jacket was replaced with a cardigan.  This might have provided a bit more comfort.

1915

Finally, Jersey material was introduced.  The cardigan and the skirt were often made of jersey material.  This provided for more comfort.

1925

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The golfing sweater vest became the latest rage.  This allowed for more movement in the swing.

Mid 1920s

The one piece golf dress was all the rage.  The skirts and sleeves were shorter.  I think this is a fun look.  Love those stockings!

1930s and 40s

Dresses modeled fashion trends.  The skirt did not get shorter and many stylish patterns were available.

1950s

It was common for women to where a blouse, skirt and often a cashmere sweater.  Golfing shoes were becoming a new fashion statement. Some women even wore nickers and blouses to the range.

2000s

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Most women wear shorts, polos and cute golfing shoes on the range.  What would you prefer to wear?

My favorite look is the 40s.  It is classic.  Perhaps, we should plan a retro day at the range?  Trisha Trixie has been working away hard to make many golfing items.  Keep an eye on her site for more details!

Saturday Special : Fascinators

First off sorry for the delay in this post. Sometimes, as a real person, life gets away from us ya know?

Anyway, As promised I wanted to share and talk to you about Fascinators and show you different styles, shapes and trends as well as the different types of Fascinators out there.  I already did a small video for you back on Try it Tuesday if you want to go view that. (Warning the video isn’t super great but I will get better as I go along)

A fascinator is a headpiece, a style of millinery. The word originally referred to a fine, lacy head covering akin to a shawl and made from wool or lace, but mostly feathers. In the modern usage, it refers to a woman’s alternative to hat for formal attire; it is usually a large hair decoration on a band or clip with elaborate trimmings and decoration like a formal hat and it can incorporate a base to make it a miniature hat.

A substantial fascinator is a fascinator of some size or bulk

Bigger than a barrette, modern fascinators are commonly made with feathers, flowers or beads.[1] They need to be attached to the hair by a comb, headband or clip. The fun, fanciful ornament is often embellished with crystals, beads, or loops of ribbon, and attaches via a comb or headband; some have a small, stiff, flat base that can be secured with bobby pins.

(all info from Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fascinator )

Here are some Fascinators I have worn in some of my photo shoots or for/at events

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And here are some I have made and sell…(more to follow soon and if you want a CUSTOM one let me know and I will customize some for you, a group or function, etc)

Here are some others wearing Fascinators

If you would like to buy any of these or order a custom Fascinator please go to my TrishaTrixie Shop and order one to be bagged in a cute bag, tissue paper and right to your door. CLICK HERE FOR SHOP

Throwback Thursday; Bullying of yesterday and today

Past Images of Bullying

A bully use to be a different sort of thing.  In the 1950s, you would get your buddies together and face a bully head on.  May the toughest man win!  These are the images of past bullies.

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(Eddie Haskell from Leave it To Beaver was a clean cut kid that everyone wanted their children to be like, but he had a mean side that the weaker kids would come to know)

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(Scott Farkus was the mean bully from the movie A Christmas Story)

Remember the scene where the bully chases the other kid home and the kid slams the door just in time?  Did you know these doors no longer keep bullies out?

Why is Bullying worse today, than it was in the 1950s?  

Well, I surely do not have all the answers.  However, I can make some assumptions.  Children use to be able to go home and get away from their peers.  “Cyber bullying” has changed this for many.  

  • People can attack others by setting up fake accounts and have the ability to remain anonymous.  
  • Our children spend large amounts of time on cell phones, computers and other electronic devices.  These devices can be used to spread hurtful information about others in a very quick manner.
  • Once something is online and public, it is hard to get rid of.  This could lead people to thinking it will always be public information and this can sometimes lead to deadly results.
  • It is much easier to be mean through an electronic device, than when you are looking into the face of your victim.

Are our children more sensitive?  Perhaps, they are.  However, it is different for one child to call you fat than to have 353 people like a status saying you are fat.  Something about hate from masses might be harder to take.

This video was created to help stop bullying.  School bullying prevention programs have been shown to be successful.

What should you do if you know bullying is occurring?

My mother would have marched right over to the neighbors house and let them know that their child was a disrespectful brat!  You may even feel like the woman pictured below.

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However, as we have new problems we should have new methods to solve these problems.

This information comes from stopbullying.gov a good resource to learn more about bullying.

Do:

  • Intervene immediately. It is ok to get another adult to help.
  • Separate the kids involved.
  • Make sure everyone is safe.
  • Meet any immediate medical or mental health needs. (Ask, “Are you Okay.”)
  • Stay calm. Reassure the kids involved, including bystanders.
  • Model respectful behavior when you intervene.

Avoid these common mistakes:

  • Don’t ignore it. Don’t think kids can work it out without adult help.
  • Don’t immediately try to sort out the facts.
  • Don’t force other kids to say publicly what they saw.
  • Don’t question the children involved in front of other kids.
  • Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately.
  • Don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot

Apologies and fact sorting can happen once the problem is diffused.  Getting the help of a guidance counselor and the parents involved are the best bet.

Wednesday What Not: the skinny on bullying

 Bullying now and then.

What is the difference?  Have you ever stopped to wonder why we as are so much harsher on each other than ever before.  How the older generation doesn’t understand bullying?  I’ve heard my mother as well as others say, “Everyone gets picked on in school.”  Bullying goes further than what they know.

Bullying Defined

So what is bullying?  I found a great site that provides information regarding bullying from stopbullying.gov I recommend that you check out this site for information on how to deal with bullying.

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.

In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:

  • An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
  • Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.

Overtime, bullying can cause serious emotional problems.

The Vintage Female Image

My mother’s childhood were filled with several types of beautiful women like Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn.  It was acceptable for women to have all shapes of bodies and they were all beautiful.

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Not only do these women have different shapes and sizes, but they are doing something; laughing with their girlfriends, gardening and being ogled by a child.  The event in life was more valued than the look.  Don’t get me wrong, these women were beautiful.  However, women of the 50s were valued for their abilities; cooking, cleaning, gardening, crafting, socializing and many other abilities.  What are women valued for today?

The Modern Female Image

What are our young ladies valued for today?  Sex, drugs or money?  I’m not really sure what we are teaching them.  However, these images can only hurt them.

Skinny models      skinny-models

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What are we valuing here?  I’m not really sure.  I guess this is why I hold on to the values of the 50s.  I can never be one of these girls.  My body wasn’t built this way.  I don’t want sunken eyes or to appear soulless.

It took me years to realize that I would never be a size 2.  That it was okay to be myself.  That there are things worth valuing in myself and other women, beyond looks.   Help your friends, daughters, neighbors and all girls find their worth!

At Trisha Trixie Designs we want girls to find their inner talents.  To showcase them with their own beauty.  With that, I’ll will leave you with pictures of some real women.  You are all beautiful!

 

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(Honored for your skill in bringing beauty to the world!)

 

Please comment and share what makes a woman beautiful, in your opinion!

Try it Tuesday: Get Fascinated with Fascinators

Do you like those amazing Fascinators, Floral clips and Barrettes you see all the Pin Up Models and other Beauties wear? Well, I did my best to put together a little video for you on how to do just that!

Check it out and take a look at a few at our slideshow of Fascinators at the end to see the final result!

Then comment on what you thought of the video. I love feedback so I can make it better next time!

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This is the Apron I wore in this video. I have yet to name this one as it was my FIRST Apron. I did do it for a Brave Girls Challenge but I just haven’t figured out what to name it yet. Have any suggestions? Let me know!!

So what did you think?

What else do you want to learn How To make? (I can’t give away ALL my secrets, but I can share a few)

Until next time,

XoXo~TrishaTrixie

Sunday Recipe: Pasta ala Tarragon with Scallops and Parmesan Bread

Pasta Ala Tarragon with Scallops and Parmesan Bread

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What should one wear to prepare such a fancy dish?

Apron Suggestion

Well, this calls for a fancy affair.  One of Trisha Trixie designed dress apron would be so fitting.  There are a ton to view in her store.  However, I have chosen the brown tiger stretch.

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Of course you will need a darling shoe to match.  The Spectator pump found at pinupgirlclothing.com really will add some sexy to your style.

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To top this outfit off our famous Trisha Trixie has designed a beautiful set called The Key to my Heart featuring a beautiful cameo.

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Now that you are ready to bake here are the ingredients!

Ingredients

Bread

  • One stick of butter
  • Three minced gloves of garlic
  • 1 tablespoon of Italian seasoning (The basil took on too much flavor and I would avoid adding this)
  • 1 roll of refrigerated Pillsbury grand rolls. (I think I will try an refrigerated Italian bread next time, as this was far too sweet for an Italian meal)
  • 1/2 cup of grated Parmesan cheese

Pasta ala Tarragon with Scallops for 2

  • 1/2 box of Penne Pasa
  • 10 or so Bay Scallops
  • 1 12 oz jar of sweet roasted red peppers
  • 1/4 cup white wine
  • 1/2 cup heavy cream
  • 3/4 cup of butter
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • 1 tablespoon of basil (fold basil and slice thin)
  • Salt and pepper to taste

Directions

If you are making the bread, begin with the bread.

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.  While the oven is preheating put the stick of butter in your bunt pan and put the pan in the oven.  This will melt the butter.

2. Cut your grand biscuits into quarters.

3. In a bowl mix your garlic, Italian seasoning and Parmesan cheese.

4.  Toss your biscuit quarters into the bowl.

5. Take out your bunt pan and place the quarters evenly throughout the pan.

6.  Cook for 24 to 26 minutes

7. Flip the bunt pan onto a serving tray, so the butter side is up!

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While the bread is cooking begin to make your Pasta!

1. Fill about half way a 6 qt pot with water.  Cooke the penne as directed by the packaging.

2. While waiting for the water to boil begin to prepare the other ingredients.

3. In a medium saucepan, combine white wine, wine vinegar, basil and red peppers.

4. Cook down to about a tablespoon of liquid.

5. stir in the heavy cream and let boil down until reduced by half.

6. While you are waiting for your sauce to reduce, prepare your scallops.

7. In a skillet, add 1/2 cup of butter and a tablespoon of olive oil.  Bring to high heat letting the butter melt.

8. Add the scallops to the skillet salt and pepper for desired taste.

9. Check the bottom of the scallops every few minutes.  You are waiting for the bottom to have a caramel coloring.  Flip them when this coloring appears.

10.  Do the same process to the other side of the scallops.

11. Combine the scallops and butter from the skillet into your sauce.  Add the remaining 1/4 butter and let the butter melt down.

12.  Place the scallops and sauce over your penne pasta.

13.  Dinner is served!

Saturday Morning: Nautical excitement

A fantastic fashion trend is the all things nautical!  

Wouldn’t a sea inspired apron be a treat?  Remember TrishaTrixie always welcomes special orders, in case some of this spurs your creativity!

Cute swimsuits for this season

Beach Bash by Art and Talyana have some cute suits at lovely prices.

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Shoes

Mod Cloth who always has fabulous vintage shoes at reasonable prices has these super cute heels, which are called Believe it or nautical heel.  So, cute! shoe JCPenney has an amazing cute flat to match your summer flare. rocket

Dress

I don’t normally shop on Amazon, but this is a dress I might not be able to pass this cute deal up at $39.99

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Baby Girl Boutique has some fun Rockability styles.  And this Nautical Betty is no different.

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Art (Vintage inspired)

We stumbled across Mark Lone and he has some amazing vintage inspired nautical prints among many other beautiful creations. Beauty ibeast

Jewelry (TrishaTrixie Designs)

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Summer is coming.  Remember to protect your beautiful skin and decorate with all things Nautical!

Throwback Thursday: Love and Marriage

In 1950 unmarried men were generally paid less than married men. Reason being? The Employers felt that single men needed less to live on and survive on. Many men got married just have a better status, pay and clout in the workforce a man was also deemed more stable if he was in a married home.

Women rarely wen to college and if they did it was to either a finishing school or something to do to pass the time until the right guy came along or they went to college to FIND the right guy.

A finishing school (or charm school) is a school for young women that focuses on teaching social skills and cultural norms as a preparation for entry into adult society.[1][2] The name reflects that it follows on from ordinary school and is intended to complete the educational experience, with classes primarily on etiquette. It may consist of an intensive course, or a one-year programme.

Even though divorce was still frowned upon there were 385,144 divorces in 1950 quite staggering at that time against 1,667,231 marriages.

In post war times, marriage was the best option, mainly women. By the time a gal was 18 she was generally sought after and men generally married in their 20’s. More men than women were generally single after the age of 25 leaving behind a trail of spinsters or late marriage bloomers.

There were not many women who worked outside the home at that time, a staggering 21 % compared to now I am sure the percentage is much higher being that MORE women work outside the home more than ever. Home businesses were on the rise though and husbands allowed their wives to do things like Tupperware, Avon and others of it’s kind. Avon launched in 1954 and over 2/3 employees were women. Shaklee products also gave rise to women working at home and part time out of the house.

Bit of Fact for you: The Kennedy Wedding was on September 13th 1953 and it was watched, stalked and admired by many. The Kennedys were under a lot of scrutiny to be “the couple to lead by example”, though if you know the story, the marriage was far from perfect.

Women were told in those days to “Show  man you love him y cooking, cleaning and always being well groomed. Never come to the day without your hair done and makeup on, and you should greet him at the door when he comes home. As well do not bombard him with trivial things, though give him time to relax and always have dinner on the table when he arrives.”

A great article to view more about Gender roles are in the link below.

Writing about gender roles of the 1950s, Betty Friedan once defined the “suburban housewife” as “the dream image of the young American woman.” Just as prescriptive literature of the 19th century geared to the middling classes emphasized women’s “true” place in society as mother and wife, the 1950s saw an ideal perpetuated in books, magazines, movies, television, songs, and ads that depicted the white, middle-class woman fulfilled only by a happy marriage.

“Women Without Men”: The Pros and Cons of a “Man-Free Life

Although it is a world-wide and historic conviction that every woman wants to be married, a great many do not want marriage. Consciously or unconsciously, many of them spend a lifetime resisting it. Hundreds of thousands of young women who have left their homes and moved to the big city in search of work and a husband have found only the work. But many others have recognized the truth—that they enjoy a man-free life—and are the happier for the recognition

Please do not misread my intentions here though. I am not encouraging one way or the other. I think that the article is best said that women “accept” they will be without a man and have a happier life for it. Though I still believe many women do better and are happier with a man in their life…that is if it is the RIGHT man. No women should stay with any man just to have one. If he is not a nice man, and treats you badly, I encourage you to take care of yourself.

What I am saying however is that just as the article states there are pros and cons of being married.

I have been married before and now it is like a boom hanging in my face that I have. Too many times of being married, no matter what the reason or how long you were married I think that men start counting the number of times it has happened.  It takes a special man to look past the number and get to know a divorced woman to decide if he wants to be with her or not.

The sting that I still have is for men I have lived with and felt like I was practice for the one they truly desires to be with, only to be burned, dumped and him to marry the other gal I knew nothing about. There was a scene in Mad Men where the mother states this to Peggy when she announced she would be living in with her man…and let me tell you, there was a lump in my through and it hit hard…

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Mother isn’t buying any of it. About the ham. Living together. Or Abe’s professed devotion to Peggy.

“I thought you’d be relieved that I wasn’t marrying the Jew.”

“It has nothing to do with that… You’re selling yourself short. Because this boy will use you for practice until he decides to get married and have a family. And he will, believe me.”

Yes, Peggy’s mom is hard and sometimes crazy (her advice about cats, for example). But what must make it difficult for Peggy to just cut the cord is that her mother is also devoted in her own way and actually has some down-to-earth wisdom to dole out.

And in this case, mother knows best, maybe not about felines, but about the risks of love birds moving into together and especially about the way Peggy’s handling the whole situation.

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This is not to say that some of these situations end great and marriage is either never needed or some day the man finally get’s down on one knee and proposes. Sadly I am left with a bitter taste in my mouth about living together as my sister lived with a man for over 20 years and he never proposed only to later find out he was still married to his ex. As well a man I lived with during four years, ended our relationship and three weeks later proposed to someone else.

I am now with a kind loving man and we have been dating off and on for a year or so. We DO now live together and it is going well. He loves my Retro Woman ideals and I love his gentleness. I do hope one day he proposes and even thought recently an offer would be available but I was mistaken.

Perhaps I too am like Peggy , and I don’t mean Peggy Bundy, in my ideals. Love and Marriage today is sadly not how it was in the 50s and honor and trust is not as widely given as well. I guess we all can’t have 1050s housewife lives, though if it were up to me, I would. 🙂

Until next time,

Xoxo~Trisha Trixie