Past Images of Bullying
A bully use to be a different sort of thing. In the 1950s, you would get your buddies together and face a bully head on. May the toughest man win! These are the images of past bullies.
(Eddie Haskell from Leave it To Beaver was a clean cut kid that everyone wanted their children to be like, but he had a mean side that the weaker kids would come to know)
(Scott Farkus was the mean bully from the movie A Christmas Story)
Remember the scene where the bully chases the other kid home and the kid slams the door just in time? Did you know these doors no longer keep bullies out?
Why is Bullying worse today, than it was in the 1950s?
Well, I surely do not have all the answers. However, I can make some assumptions. Children use to be able to go home and get away from their peers. “Cyber bullying” has changed this for many.
- People can attack others by setting up fake accounts and have the ability to remain anonymous.
- Our children spend large amounts of time on cell phones, computers and other electronic devices. These devices can be used to spread hurtful information about others in a very quick manner.
- Once something is online and public, it is hard to get rid of. This could lead people to thinking it will always be public information and this can sometimes lead to deadly results.
- It is much easier to be mean through an electronic device, than when you are looking into the face of your victim.
Are our children more sensitive? Perhaps, they are. However, it is different for one child to call you fat than to have 353 people like a status saying you are fat. Something about hate from masses might be harder to take.
This video was created to help stop bullying. School bullying prevention programs have been shown to be successful.
What should you do if you know bullying is occurring?
My mother would have marched right over to the neighbors house and let them know that their child was a disrespectful brat! You may even feel like the woman pictured below.
However, as we have new problems we should have new methods to solve these problems.
This information comes from stopbullying.gov a good resource to learn more about bullying.
- Intervene immediately. It is ok to get another adult to help.
- Separate the kids involved.
- Make sure everyone is safe.
- Meet any immediate medical or mental health needs. (Ask, “Are you Okay.”)
- Stay calm. Reassure the kids involved, including bystanders.
- Model respectful behavior when you intervene.
Avoid these common mistakes:
- Don’t ignore it. Don’t think kids can work it out without adult help.
- Don’t immediately try to sort out the facts.
- Don’t force other kids to say publicly what they saw.
- Don’t question the children involved in front of other kids.
- Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately.
- Don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot
Apologies and fact sorting can happen once the problem is diffused. Getting the help of a guidance counselor and the parents involved are the best bet.